Post # 1
My fi and I want to get married next June and have been scrambling to find a place. He lives in atlanta and i live in ny. I will be moving down there after we are married. Since we’ve dated, he’s always told me that he wanted a wedding that was a destination, different, and memorable. So when we got engaged, we decided to try Napa Valley. But then I felt bad asking guests to spend so much money on airfare to fly out there. Then we decided to do it on hilton head island but logistically, it was not working out. After that, we decided to divide and conquer. I would look in NY/NJ and he would look in Atlanta. He found a place he LOVES in Atlanta. But i’m having doubts about it because its so far, not really a “destination” we’ve had in mind, and would not be perceived as exciting by my family since we’ve been there a few times already. But he loves it and really doesn’t like anything I’ve found. I like it, but just feel bad asking people to go down there for the wedding. any advice out there to help me out? My family is supportive but has said that it’s not their ideal situation. They’d rather do a wedding closer to me here. what do i do? I want to feel comfortable asking guests to come down and excited but this sad, scared feeling is just consuming me.
Post # 3
where are your families? it’s traditional to have the wedding in the brides hometown, but you can do anything you want. the people that are important won’t mind traveling for your wedding, no matter where it is.
Post # 4
Hey! Since you will be moving to Atlanta after you get married, maybe you can use that as a push to get your Fiance to agree to the wedding in NY. You know, moving away from your family etc etc . The East Coast is beautiful, and I am confident that if you are patient and keep looking you will find something. Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
Make a decision depending on you and your fiance’s wishes. My fiance and I made the mistake of planning our wedding in a location that our families wanted more than we did, and then we had a hard time getting excited about it because it wasn’t where we felt most at home. It was more of a mess telling them it would take place in one state and then taking it back, so make the right decision the first time by focusing on the two of you! 🙂 Good luck!!
Post # 6
Why not another beach destination on the East Coast? Charleston, the Outer Banks, Savannah, Miami etc. I can imagine finding a spot in June will be difficult since most are top destination locations, but it’s worth looking into.
If all else fails, have it in your hometown. That is traditional.
Who is paying for the wedding?
Post # 7
Are your parents financing the wedding? If so, do they have an opinion on where the event should be?
Where do most of your guests live? While you are in no way obligated to choose a location based on this, it may help your event be what you want it to be (for example: if you are wanting a large, formal wedding then somewhere across the country may not accomplish that since it’s unlikely that everyone invited would be able to travel).
The venue search can be tough, even when you are only considering one city. Hang in there!
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
I’m kind of in a similar situation. I’m from NY and my fiance is from AL. I am going to grad school in AL, but I have always dreamed of having my wedding in NY. His mom, however, can’t travel far and so our wedding will be here in AL/GA. Not at all what I expected or envisioned. And most of my friends will have to travel, too. I talked with some of them and they said they wouldn’t mind traveling to repay the favor for the many times I had to travel to visit them/go to their weddings. Also, they want to be there for my wedding. Granted, not all of them can make it, but some can.
Perhaps, after your wedding, you can travel up to New York and have a party for all the people who couldn’t make it to your wedding? Like a summer picnic time party; there’s nothing like late summer nights in New York! String up some lights, make an iPod playlist of your favorite songs…you can never have enough parties! And then you can wear your dress again!
I’ve learned to put aside my made-up “dream” wedding and make the absolute most of this situation. Make this my dream wedding with what I have been given. Look at lots of pictures of this Atlanta place and envision your wedding there; make it your mission to make it the best wedding that venue’s ever seen! Visit the Chamber of Commerce’s website and put together the greatest out-of-town welcome bags and find exciting places for your friends to go while they are in town. At least it’s close to a major airport! And your friends just may love exploring someplace new and have a mini vacation all while supporting and celebrating you!
Hope everything works out…and welcome to the south!