- 9 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Bees, I feel like I am typically a reasonable person (dont laugh). I try to go with the flow for this wedding stuff, I dont want it to be any more stressfull than necessary.
FI has been having a hard time choosing his wedding party. The problem is that Fiance has three ‘good’ friends from undergrad. Two of them he really likes and is closer to. The third one is a spawn of satan, the devil, a supreme jackass (his name from here on out).
To say that I hate Jackass does not even adequately describe how I feel about this dude. Let’s go ahead and list his offenses, shall we:
-Jackass is a disgusting philandering cheater. This dude goes into long term relationship after long term relationship. Sound nice? NO. He countinually cheats on all his girlfriends. This is not one or two times, he is a CONSTANT cheather. He travels for his job so he cheats with girls from different cities, girls from the club, he will have sex with his exes while in a ‘committed’ relationship with a new girl. He flies girls out to his city to have sex with them. He recently moved in with another girl; right before he said he has limited time to have as much sex as possible before she moved across the coast for HIM. HE IS DISGUSTING.
-Jackass had tried on multiple occasions to get my Fiance to cheat. He has told my Fiance that he doesn’t understand why Fiance wouldn’t cheat on me if I could never find out. Apparently that “would never be him” UGH
-Jackass is a mean person. We all went to undergrad together and he has repeatedly disrespected women, calling him bitches to their faces. He took pics of a girl’s vag during sex and showed it to his friends. Before Fiance and I started dating he tried to solicit me for sex (OH THANK YOU LORD JESUS IN HEAVEN FOR DODGING THAT). He was always rude to me; he toned it down when Fiance and I stared dating.
-Jackass is a tattletale. He was slightly jealous when Fiance and I started dating cause Fiance couldn’t live the single (i.e., cheating) life with him anymore. He told his father (YES LADIES) that he didn’t like me and when his father would visit us during dorms he would be rude to me!!!!! Jackass is a spawn of jackass!!!
-He is very excited about our wedding and always bugs Fi for details. Why? Because he “can’t wait for the bachelor party”
So now comes the question, why does Fiance hang with him right? Well I dont completely understand it myself outside of some dude bond. They played sports together in undergrad, always hung together, they are a part of four group of friends who have stayed relatively close. Fiance wants the other two guys in his wedding party but not Jackass (read above reasons why) but he feels he can’t ask the other guys and not jackass b/c jackass would be hurt and it would be uncomfortable at the wedding. He tells me Jackass is like Phil (Brad Cooper) in The Hangover; he is not the best guy but he is your friend. I want to say that I trust my Fiance and luckily he has limited his contact with Jackass partly due to the reasons I outlined above.
ANyway let’s wrap this up. I am not comfortable having Jackass in my wedding, looking at pics 10 years from now and seeing him. He doesn’t not value women or relationships or what Fiance and I have. I will say that overall is he cares about Fiance a lot and would go out on a limb for FI; but this guy is disrespectful on a repetitive level. It makes no sense to me to include him on a day which honors two people spending the rest of their lives together. Fiance says if I want to leave him out, he will, but he can’t include the other guys either as he wouldn’t be comfortable with that. But now Fiance is so sad that he can’t have the other two guys stand for him. SIGH.
What would you guys do? Should we include Jackass or not? Did I mention he once delivered drugs across country for money? (Mind you he grew up filthy rich with a silver spoon in his mouth; he is disgusting.)