(Closed) Can't do this anymore…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think you need to talk to her mom. If you haven’t talked, and she still doesn’t want to continue a relationship, or keeps saying “I don’t know,” it is best for you to try to move on. 

I’m sorry for what you are going through, it really does suck, but it’ll get better as you adjust to things without her, and stop thinking “what if” and “maybe,” hoping that things will be different. It’s hard, but take what she is saying (or not saying) at face value. 

Post # 4
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942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree @elleZ, I’m so sorry that your heart is heavy and broken.  It’s so difficult to process everything when you feel so down. But the *best* advice really is to pick yourself up, and try to walk pridefully away. You did what you could, and that is all you ever can do in life.  Plus, you want and deserve to be in a relationship where the feelings are mutual.  It will be hard, but give it a couple of months and you WILL feel better (very hard to believe right now….but you will). Hang in there and be strong when you make your decision. hugs. 

Post # 6
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598 posts
Busy bee

You can only do so much. It is not in your hands. She is the one who wanted to take the break and you have to accept that. You will not benefit from stressing out so much and there is no need to contact her mother regarding the situation. Everything happens for a reason. If she needs time alone to think about things then let it be. There is nothing wrong with it. You have no choice but to walk away for now, until she lets you know what the deal is. You have to wait it out. Everything happens for a reason. If you are meant to be together things will work themselves out. Be confident and don’t go crawling back, let her come back to you. If she truly loves you she will. Don’t worry. Just know that everything will be fine in the end regardless of the outcome.

Post # 7
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179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Packers12:  I have to agree with elleZ and Vintagekay.  You are better off walking away.  I know you are hurting terribly, but if this is her reaction it could be she’s not ready to make a permanent commitment.  Do you really want to be with someone who is not sure and unwilling to communicate?  It will be hard in the beginning, but as my mom says…. “It’s better to be alone than in bad company.”  Sounds better in Spanish but you get the gist of it. 

Post # 9
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry, hon. I know this is hard on you. I think it’s best to deactivate your profile and any other way you had to check on her/keep in contact with her. Let yourself grieve the loss of the relationship and try to move on with your life. You don’t have to go crazy or date or anything, but try to get back in touch with YOU.

Post # 11
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Packers12:  Unfortunately, I don’t think she wants to be with you anymore, but I can’t say for sure. I know that, personally, if I break up with someone, we’re done for good. I would either work on our problems together or break up and move on.

Post # 13
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3964 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agee with PP.  Look out for number 1 and try your best to move on.  You say “if she only knew hom much I’m hurting right now”, she probably does and she’ll be hurting too (just because it was her decision doesn’t make it any easier, I’ve been there).  If you can’t wait, don’t. Grieve and move on.  Good luck.

Post # 14
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3964 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@vorpalette:  I’m the same.  You break up with someone for a reason, those reasons rarely change.  And even if they do, the relationship is soured from the break and will never fully recover or be the same again (been there, and I was miserable)

Post # 16
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1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t ask her mom about. I would try to do other things to keep your mind off of it. Just wait and see if she contacts you. For me, once I take a break in a relationship.. that’s pretty much it. If it gets to that point, it seems like there’s no going back. That doesn’t mean that will be the same for your situation, but you don’t want to hound her about it. If she wants to contact you, she will. I know from experience that it’s hard to just give someone space, but sometimes that’s what you have to do. Best of luck to you..

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