(Closed) Can’t even believe this…

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh, those poor babies!! It’s such a shame when people take advantage and expect others to take care of their kids. Of course you’ll all do what’s best for those kids, but this whole situation is less than ideal for them 🙁 I hope your vent helped… they really deserve better than this disfunctional situation they’re in/being born into.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Some people are so ridiculously irresponsible it makes me sick.  I am sorry you are forced to be a part of this situtation! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow I agree. Some people should not be parents….but more importantly those unfortunate babies. They’ve done nothing wrong to deserve to live like that. As much as I can’t stand my brother and his wife, I sure do love their kids.

Prayin’ for a good outcome for your family.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

oh my goodness… I am… wow.. speechless. I feel so sad for the babies, and you FIL’s. What an awful situation. At least they have a good family that will always be there for the babies if they won’t, I know it’s not a situation where there are any “positives” but you know that the babies will be taken care of if nothing else, you can’t blame their immature actions on babies for sure. 

so sorry you have to deal with this! I couldn’t even imagine… and how selfish of her to try to turn her boyfriend against his family when they’ve done nothing but help her.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

🙁 Oh the poor kids, seriously. That is not the life you want to come in to. Why were they even sleeping together if he hasn’t lived in his own house for 6 months?! Jeez. Is he sure they are his? Not to be rude or anything but…I guess it’s something I’d wonder if I were him.

I’m sorry you have to deal with that! Yikes.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh wow.. I’m sorry you have to be in this situation, especially while planning your wedding. Did his family find out yet? 

And I want to second @AmeliaBedelia:, is he sure the twins are his? From what you said about this girl, it seems likely that she might try to pull something weird.. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The kids will be the ones who suffer, if she’s toxic to begin with what kind of parenting and modeling will she do for her children?  so sad and I am also sorry you have to worry about all this, I wish everyone the best esp. the innocent children involved.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m so sad you have to deal with all this–and your Future Brother-In-Law, too.

How can she know at 10 weeks that one of them has Down’s? I didn’t know that was possible to detect with amnio or CVS (which she is too young for, right?). I am concerned that she is lying and being manipulative.

How are your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law dealing with it all?

 

And kudos to you and your Fiance for taking care of his brother through all this.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@PasteMoo: I was thinking the same thing… not sure how she could know that early whether or not the baby has Down’s…

@hellosunshine: You’re a better person than me … I wouldnt be able to bite my tongue but it’s good that you have for the baby’s sake!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

wow that is a lot to handle.. having kids is already hard enough when you have a stable relationship/marriage. I’m not a mom but I work as a nanny so I am around children all day and know what a toll it can take on a person but it’s a joyful experience when both parents are there and able to get along.

my prayers go out to them and your family that you can all pull through this together for the childrens’ sake 🙂

be strong!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is incredibly heartbreaking and so stressful! It must be incredibly hard to decide what you can do morally, really there’s no way around drama with girls like that.

As for your comment about not being ready to have a baby yet, I completely agree, for me that is! I have a full time job, in a great relationship, own a home, and still do not feel ready to take on the duties of mommyhood. Yet, I see the most irresponsible, most unsuitable parents having kids. I’m a teacher of fifth graders, and it still surprises me when I meet parents who are around my age (24) or who have absolutely no interest in the well being of their kids. So sad!

 

Lots of good karma is being sent your way!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is incredibly heartbreaking and so stressful! It must be incredibly hard to decide what you can do morally, really there’s no way around drama with girls like that.

As for your comment about not being ready to have a baby yet, I completely agree, for me that is! I have a full time job, in a great relationship, own a home, and still do not feel ready to take on the duties of mommyhood. Yet, I see the most irresponsible, most unsuitable parents having kids. I’m a teacher of fifth graders, and it still surprises me when I meet parents who are around my age (24) or who have absolutely no interest in the well being of their kids. So sad!

 

Lots of good karma is being sent your way!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

omgoodness! One BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!

Now on to my rant….Like you said “pretty careful” is not concrete! CONDOMS people CONDOMS! Not to mention that this girl could have gone on some sort of birth control, there is so many out there! Pills, shot, implants, IUD, diaphram, foam, inserts, gel….There is no excuse! I mean really, if I was a young mother with one toddler in a rocky relationship with my child’s father and I do not get along with his family, yet I irresponsibly continue to have sex with the father, you bet your booty, I’m going to double, triple, quad, sack it on the birth control if that means getting on the pill, going to the store and purchasing the gel and making my man wear a condom!

It is apparent that neither one of them are being a responsible parent and adult in that relationship. It’s not just them that will have to deal with the consequenses, all 3 of those babies will. Well there really isn’t anything that y’all can do now except hope for the best.

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