(Closed) Can't Everyone just GET ALONG?! (Vent)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

ELOPE. It is possible. Just do it.

Post # 4
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Get some sweet costumes and run away.

I’m thinking moustaches and sombreros.

They’ll never recognize you.

Post # 5
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe you could speak to a counselor or something.  It sounds like your mind is going a mile a minute.  You are not engaged yet, just breathe.  Things fall into place.

Post # 6
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh wow…. And I actually read the whole thing! LOL

I think you are putting too much on yourself. YOu are worrying about things you have no control over but there are few things that you can control and once you take care of that, then just let the other stuff go. You will drive yourself crazy!

If your mom and your other family pose a problem, split dress fittings etc… so everyone is happy if that is the extend you need to go to.

Pick one frined or cousin to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and others if needed to be the BM’s. If they accept then that’s great, if they don’t then I am sure there are others you can ask. Don’t worry about their challenges, emotions etc… this is your happy time and if they can’t be happy with you, well then that doesn’t seam to good of a friendship to me.

You can control how much to spend on your wedding! It is yours and your SO’s day! They will adjust. Do it your way and both of you have to be strong and firm.

You can set up a cash bar with vendors and maybe some tickets as give aways… people generally abuse the alcohol more when they don’t have to pay for it.

That’s all I can suggest. But most importantly, stop stressing about the things you have no control over 🙂

Post # 8
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I definitly understand where you’re coming from! That’s a lot to take in.  However, I don’t think you should let fear and worry control your life.  If you put off your engagement because of your families, then you’re already giving them power over you! Be bold, be strong and shrug their nonsense off! 


Post # 9
3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

It sounds like you should ELOPE! a wedding of this magnitute will undercut the celebration of your love. You should just elope and then have a party to appese everyone later. ON YOUR TERMS!

Post # 10
3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I hate to be a double poster but i thought of something else

Don’t let someone else steal your happiness.

My mom is very controling with money (aka: an Indian Giver) and she is pushing for me to get my dress made by our seemstress friend, which I am not opposed to, but I have it in my head that if I try on a dress in a store and I LOVE it. I will buy it, with my own money, thank you. She wil pay for it if our friend makes it, but I will have the cash on hand to buy at the store if I want. Cause it is about what I want. 

It is your day, Your time. You just have to be assertive. and the best way to do that if you are shy is to hide behind your book! plan! plan the wedding YOU want. and if someone tires to mess with the plan tell them the Wedding Book is Law. If you do not become assertive then people are going to highjack your wedding and you will be miserable…


Or you can elope

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