Post # 1
My Fiance is the best man in a wedding about 2 months before we get married. He got an Evite to the rehearsal dinner, but I didn’t. I know they have my email address, so that’s not the issue. I’m just trying to figure out if they are only inviting my Fiance or if they are assuming he’ll RSVP with a +1 on the Evite. What do you think? I’m not having a formal rehearsal dinner, so I haven’t put any thought into this before now. Is it standard to only invite the wedding party and not their significant others to a rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
The WP’s dates should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Just have your Fiance check with the groom to avoid any unnecessary confusion. 🙂
Post # 4
As far as I know it’s standard to invite the significant others to the rehearsal dinner. Maybe you could have your Fiance call to clarify though. Who knows, maybe they’re trying to keep costs down and not having SOs attend, so it’s best just to ask rather than step on toes.
Post # 5
If your invited to the wedding as “his guest”, then you should be invited to the rehearsal dinner as “his guest”.
Post # 6
My guess is yes, you are. I would have Fiance call to make sure.
Post # 7
They should have specified to be clear, but I would assume you are invited and call to confirm.
Post # 8
my guess would be no, at least for my rehearsal. If everyone’s significat other was invited it would double the cost of food, and I would be upset that they just showed up. (not including the flower girl and ring bearers parents which of course they are invited) Just because you are invited as his guest to the wedding does not mean you can assume that invite is for the rehearsal dinner as well…you are not in the wedding party so the rehearsal is not for you.
The rehearsal dinner is for those who were there to rehearsal that day….
I would double check to make sure, bc if you are invited and don’t show up they may ask about you.
Post # 9
I think that you should have Fiance call and ask. I think that it’s standard that the significant others are invited to the rehearsal dinner as well.
Post # 10
for all rd’s i’ve been to, dates are invited. but i’d make him call just in case.
Post # 11
Thanks for the input! I called my Fiance to warn him not to assume I’m invited and reply with a +1 until he talks to the groom. I wish we didn’t have to call though because I don’t want him to take us asking as implying that we think I should have been invited.
@ Kelly Shepher-Gettler
That’s exactly what I was thinking when I was trying to figure out why I wouldn’t be invited. They have a larger wedding party, so if everyone got a +1 that would easily be an extra 10 people. And it sounds like the dinner is at a nice restaurant.
I guess my advice to you (not that you’re asking) if you’re not inviting the wedding party’s significant others is to make sure that’s clear on the invite to the rehearsal dinner! I think the weight of the responses on this thread shows that most people would assume the SOs are invited.
Post # 12
Maybe this is a regional thing. I’ve never had a date invited to the rehersal dinner. No matter the seriousness of the relationship. I would check with the bride and groom.
We’re planning to invite dates, but mostly because we’re planning to use them all for hard labor (tent decorating) after we feed them. We also have a very small wedding party to the couple extra mouths won’t break the bank.
Post # 13
Fiances and spouses should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Plus one’s usually aren’t at the rehearsal dinner unless they are from out of town.