(Closed) Can't figure this guy out. Help?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
461 posts
Helper bee

I think you are wasting your time here he clearly isn’t ready for the type of relationship you want.  You need to decide if you want a bit of fun with someone who isn’t going to commit or whether you should move on and find someone who is going to give you cause to make full use of wedding bee.com!!

Post # 3
4658 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This part of your post answers your question.  “He said he really enjoyed spending time with me too and he just wanted to be honest and say that he’s not sure what he’s going to be looking for right now.”

He is telling you, right up front, that he is not interested in having arelationship with you. These are not the words of a man excited about exploring the possibility of a relationship.

This is a classic case of a man trying to organise a no ties hook-up situation, in my humble opinion.

Post # 4
2138 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Definitely wasting time –

Your first clue is that you even have to try and ‘figure him out’.. someone who’s serious about you doesn’t give you any doubt about the fact.

Your second clue is that he said he ”wants to be honest with you” and ”is not sure what he’s looking for’. Someone who’s serious about you would never say that (no matter how messed up their previous relationship was).

Your third clue is that he said ”He’d like to hang out again” without deciding on a specific time/place for your next meeting. Someone who’s serious about you doesn’t ”want to hang out again sometime”’, they want to know exactly when they’re going to see you again.

I slept with my husband on the first date as well, and he spent the whole night telling me how much he had liked me for ages, and wanted to see me again the next evening.

You’re definitely wasting your time with this guy.. he just wants to have a bit of fun with you.

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