Post # 1
Hi Bees 🙂
I wanted to post this one anonymously..mostly because I’m just embarassed by it lol
I have been talking to this guy for a few weeks now, and we were finally able to get together to do something yesterday. Against my better judgment, I slept with him..He has been single for about a year now and made it clear that one night stands arent for him, so I don’t feel that it was just a hookup but I’m not sure because he’s very confusing.
He ended up spending the night (I know, bad idea) and in the morning we just laid in bed talking for hours. When he left, he gave me a kiss on the cheek and said he’d call/text later (which he did). When we were talking tonight, I said I had a nice time with him and that I’d like to see him again, etc. He said he really enjoyed spending time with me too and he just wanted to be honest and say that he’s not sure what he’s going to be looking for right now. From what he said, his last girlfriend really effed him up. Obviously I’m not looking to be exclusive or anything seeing as we have only started talking a few weeks ago, but it would be nice to know if he is interested that way or not. He said he’d like to hang out again and stuff so I’m even more confused lol
I guess my question is, does he seem interested or just looking to hookup? I have a hard time looking at things objectively, so was just hoping to get some outside opinions on the situation. I’m not interested in just a hookup, so I don’t want to invest time and develop feelings if its most likely not going to turn into anything.
Post # 2
I think you are wasting your time here he clearly isn’t ready for the type of relationship you want. You need to decide if you want a bit of fun with someone who isn’t going to commit or whether you should move on and find someone who is going to give you cause to make full use of wedding bee.com!!
Post # 3
This part of your post answers your question. “He said he really enjoyed spending time with me too and he just wanted to be honest and say that he’s not sure what he’s going to be looking for right now.”
He is telling you, right up front, that he is not interested in having arelationship with you. These are not the words of a man excited about exploring the possibility of a relationship.
This is a classic case of a man trying to organise a no ties hook-up situation, in my humble opinion.
Post # 4
Definitely wasting time –
Your first clue is that you even have to try and ‘figure him out’.. someone who’s serious about you doesn’t give you any doubt about the fact.
Your second clue is that he said he ”wants to be honest with you” and ”is not sure what he’s looking for’. Someone who’s serious about you would never say that (no matter how messed up their previous relationship was).
Your third clue is that he said ”He’d like to hang out again” without deciding on a specific time/place for your next meeting. Someone who’s serious about you doesn’t ”want to hang out again sometime”’, they want to know exactly when they’re going to see you again.
I slept with my husband on the first date as well, and he spent the whole night telling me how much he had liked me for ages, and wanted to see me again the next evening.
You’re definitely wasting your time with this guy.. he just wants to have a bit of fun with you.