(Closed) Can’t find a wedding band

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

the issue with that (gorgeous) ring is that the stone is set quite low and the prongs, as a result, are also low.  Unless you get a very thin band, its going to hit the prongs and not sit flush against the band.  Now for me, I dont care that it doesnt sit flush, but the banging of the prongs would irritate me and make me nervous.  You might consider getting one custom made with a bit of an arch to compensate for the low prongs.  If you’re like me, you dont want to wear them on different hands right?  You could always wear that on your rght hand…

Miss MaryJane has a marquis, chekc out her posts for her wedding band photos.  They COULD give you some inspiratin (I cant remember off the top of my head what they look likE)

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmmm… jusging from the side view picture, I think its possible, but I doubt you can buy one “off the rack”. It might need to be a custom piece that takes into account the shape of the diamond.

Have you only looked at one jewler’s? You might shop around, or start shopping for a jewlery designer instead of just a seller.

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with the pp’s. I think you are going to have to find a jeweler that does custom work. It can be done, it’ll just take a little more time and effort. Don’t give up yet!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Is there anyone in town you can ask for recommendations?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

that is such a gorgeous ring! i am jealous!!

i don’t know much about getting rings custom made but i know loads of people do it. that is probably the best route for you to take. good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@coconutmellie The ring is beautiful, but if it isn’t your style this maybe be a good reason to change the setting. Then you could find something that is perfect, and buy the setting and band to match.

If you want to stick with the original there are thin enough rings out there. Mine has diamonds and sapphires all the way around and it sits almost flush to my hand. If you don’t want the hassle or expense of a custom ring I would just go out and try on a whole bunch of styles. You won’t really know how it fits together until you see and feel both on your finger. Trial and error.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My custom ering took about a month to make but it was over the Christmas and New Years holidays. My wedding band took about a week.

Edit: My jeweler no longer has a store and is working out of her house. So she has very few customers. I would definitley ask each jeweler what their timeline is.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@coconutmellie – Always here to help =o)  dont feel bad saying that you are not the biggest fan.  I think marquise diamonds are stunning…However I am not a fan of them on my hands.  I get jealous when I see them on Mis sMJs, it just looks beautiful on her.  I know your mom might be crushed, but do you think perhaps if you mentioned that you are having a hard time finding a band due to the setting that she might be ok with you wearing it as a right hand ring?  Then you can get your dream engagement ring and not feel bad about not loving it.  you wont be completely abandoning it, you know?  You should get an elated feeling when you look down at your engagement ring and wedding band…

Im not sure where you live, but if you are not into the idea above, perhaps try another town over for a custom band?  Or try an Alchemy search on etsy, they can provide you with some huge resources and alternatives you may have never thought of.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Coconutmellie,

I don’t mean to be mean or disrespectful to your mom, as I’m sure she has her reasons and it was very generous for her to give your Fiance the ring to use, but she needs to “put on her big girl panties” and realize that it’s not her ring anymore, and that you should have the right to do what you want with it! It’s not like you want to chop it up into thousands of pieces and have it reset into the shape of the devil or something– I mean, it seems like you would be happier if you could simply get it dipped to change it to a white setting, not yellow.

Does she know how much angst this is causing you, and that it’s filling you with negative energy each time you look down, and feel disappointment (and a bit of anger at not being able to change it)?

I didn’t love the marquis cut either, for my hand, until I saw one set sideways– East/West. So pretty! Your stone would be beautiful set in this way, with just a simple white gold band.

I’m sending good wishes your way that you can someday convince your mother to be ok with you resetting the gorgeous stone into something that’s more your style. Good luck!

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Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that if you are truly unhappy with it, your mom needs to get over it. She gave it to you, it’s not a loaner =]. My mom by the way, has a gorgeous marquis. It’s got 4 or so smaller marquis set around it and is flanked by a contoured row of rounds on either side. No pictures, sorry! They are very elegant with a little bit of vintage flair =]. I looove that sidways one; i’ve seen it other places and it is really a neat shape.

In finding a jeweler, I think you coudl just pop open yahoo local or a phone book, google “Jeweler” and make some calls. SOMEBODY is bound to do custom rings OR will know someone who does. A private jeweler is your best bet versus a retail store perhaps

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I love that ring! Don’t get frustrated, you will find something. It is lovely and unique and you should embrace it! I have an antique ring, and I had a similar problem. I ended up getting an antique partial eternity ring (from the same era, 30’s)  that does not “fit” as the curved ones all looked weird. I actually like that there is a gap between the two. I did not think I would, but I really do. In the end it looked better to get a ring that ‘matched’ as opposed to ‘fit against’. Try going to an antique jewelry store, you may find a match. 

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