Post # 1
I’ve been engaged since November, but am only just getting around to getting a ring now haha (he proposed with a family ring but it’s much too small for my finger and would have to be remounted anyway). I’ve never been overly excited about rings and really wasn’t sure what I wanted so I wanted some time to think about it and look around. I’m also not really into traditional rings or spending a lot of money on one thing and then being afraid I’ll damage or lose it.
Anyway, I’ve found a style that I really like and a local designer that doesn’t focus on diamonds and is flexible with stone choices. This isn’t the ring, but it’s a similar shape, only the centre stone is even a bit longer than the rest of the ring than this one. I can’t seem to find a wedding band that goes well with this style.. Does anyone have any advice for a good shape that would? Or, would it be weird to just not get one and stick with the engagement ring alone? I don’t reaally want to spend a ton more money on having one made if that’s what would be necessary. I was originally just looking at the wedding band as something that I could wear on its own when i didn’t want to wear the bigger ring.
Post # 2
have you considered wearing your engagement ring on your right hand after the wedding and wearing a wedding band on your left?
Alternatively, you could create something to match that would fit around the ring, like this:
Or something a little different, like this:
Or you could go for something simple like this if you don’t mind a bit of a gap!
Something like this could also be interesting depending on your style 🙂
Alternatively if you don’t want to spend a lot right now, you could get a plain, very thin band to go with it and then have a ring made to match for your 5 year anniversary 🙂
Post # 3
You can wear it alone, I for one think people should be more open to it because its only been the last hundred years so so that people buy two rings, but that being said you will get question on it, so just be prepared, and layer on you won’t be able to change your mind abput having one without not wearing you’re ering.
I personally would look for something higher set so you can put a band under, and if your on a buget would say at least just go in and look at a pawn shop or a couple (some can be sparce for choices) but I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the deals you can find, especially on settings.
Post # 4
Well you could get a band and not wear your engagement ring once you get married; you can get one made to fit that ring or you could try specifically going into jewelers and asking for a band that would fit around that ring. You may not be hard pressed to find a band that curves enough to accommodate your ring, but it will be a try on journey.
Post # 5
I didn’t get a band, no regrets 🙂
Post # 6
nordiclight : Those are great suggestions! I love that last one you posted. I’ll see if i can find one where the gap doesn’t look too weird maybe.. I love the idea about maybe getting one for a 5 yr anniversary or something as well. I’m already making so many minute, but expensive decisions right now it takes the pressure off haha.
gardnerg : I didn’t know that it was such a (relatively) new tradition! Makes me feel better about potentially doing that.
cj-court : I think that if I was not going to wear the engagement ring in the long run that I wouldn’t bother getting one. I guess I could just get the ring I like and not wear it until the wedding and pretend it’s a wedding band haha.
angelinagonzalez : good to know! ‘regrets’ is probably the main reason I keep going back and forth. right now I don’t care, but I was wondering if I might down the line..
It’s not so much about not HAVING the money, as not wanting to spend so much on something that might be unnecessary. If there was something I really LOVED then it might be a bit different, but it’s not something that is that important to me personally.
Thank you all for your input 🙂
Post # 7
wolfeyes : I guess I don’t really see the point in a wedding band, since my husband also only has one ring, so it really didn’t matter to me either way. Plus, no one has ever asked why I don’t have one, or anything along those lines, and we’ve been married for a little over a year now. I mean, you can always get one later!
Post # 8
I debated not wanting a wedding band, but elected to go with it because I wanted something smaller/less flashy for some occasions (out running errands, for example). You can do something with similar detailing, but isn’t an exact match – that’s what I opted for.
Post # 9
When I had my original split shank halo, I wasn’t going to get a wedding band to wear with it. I did want a band in case I didn’t wear my e-ring, but I would have worn it on my right hand.
I think the ring you posted is very pretty and doesn’t need a band. I think a lot of bands take away from the e-ring, but I completely understand why people get them.
Post # 10
I think it depends on what you want. Is having a band important to you? I wanted a band so I got one. I even had them soldered together. But for some people it’s not important. I know a friend who didn’t want to wear a band because she felt it would detract from her ring. For me, if I had a very fancy ering i’d want a very simple band to help keep the attention on the ring.
Post # 11
My engagement ring was made from a vintage mold and doesn’t have an accompanying band. I decided to just get a super wide silver band – much simpler than the engagement ring and I plan to either rotate – wear the diamond one day, the band the next, etc. or like other people suggested, where the engagement ring on my right hand and band on my left. I don’t think it’s necessary to get a band if there’s not one you’re really wanting. I have always wanted a super thick/wide simple band, so I figured I should make it my wedding band. It I hadn’t been thinking about it already, I wouldn’t have gotten a band at all. There were a few bands at the jewelry store that my engagement ring came from, and they look O-K with it, but not good enough to spend $800 more. Plus, my engagement right has details on the sides that the band would cover up, so that seemed dumb.
Post # 12
It’s not all that important to me, no. That’s the thing, I do like the idea of it and like having the option to wear something simpler while travelling and that sort of thing. But i don’t like it enough to spend $800 like you said val6581 when it doesn’t even actually work with the ering that i actually DO like. It also seems kind of crazy to me to spend $800 on something so simple anyway. I’d almost rather just get something fairly cheap that is a non-precious metal to wear when I can’t/shouldn’t wear the e-ring.
Thanks for your input everyone! None of our friends are married or very marriage focused so I don’t really know the options or norms of some things!
Post # 13
wolfeyes : Yep. Absolutely.
Here’s what I ended up getting for my wedding band. It’s handmade, which is pretty cool, simple, and durable (like you mentioned).
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s necessary to wear one with your e-ring. These days anything goes! The one in the pic is so beautiful on its own so I know yours will be also! You could always get one to wear separately, or get your jeweler to make one that fits around your center stone. There are lots of more affordable bands on Etsy & some designers will make it custom! 🙂
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