(Closed) Can't get over this breakup

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Packers12:  It takes time. Give yourself time to heal and focus on you and things will fall into place. Go Bears 😉

Post # 4
3552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Packers12:  check out missmelly’s threads about her engagement being off. Those two threads are like the mecca of breakup advice on the Bee and some of it might help you

Post # 6
3246 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I found MissMelly’s more recent breakup recovery thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/update-the-wedding-and-relationship-is-off-healing-journey-part-2

I’m sorry this happened, and that you feel so down. But, it’s only been 2 weeks; that’s not very long, and time is the best healer. . . unfortunately or fortunately! 

Make sure you do some nice things for yourself! Maybe it’s too soon to be talking to other women– just give yourself some space to process things. Or if being around women helps, and they understand how your emotions are, then go for that. (Please do make sure that anyone you’re flirting with, if your intentions are to have a fling or short-term relationship, understands that you are recovering from a breakup of a very serious relationship/might be rebounding.)

Best of luck recovering– you must feel so bad right now. . . when you felt so sure about her. 

BUT you WILL get over her and go on to find someone who wants to be with you and is better for you!



Post # 8
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

I’m sorry that you have to go through this. Maybe talking to a professional will help you find ways to grieve and heal at the same time? 

Post # 10
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

breakups sucks and it takes time to get over it. Surround yourself with family and friends.  I honestly like jumping back into dating to at least take my mind off of it, meet some new exciting people and see all the possibilities that are out there for the future.  That’s definitely not the approach for everyone though.

Post # 11
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Packers12:  when i went through a horrible breakup 2 years ago therapy saved my ass. I was always in touch with my feelings but I learned so many things through therapy. Before that, I never would have imagined I could afford it but now, I just make a few cutbacks and I know it’s the best investment I’ve ever made.

I thought I would never love again and I thought my heart was permanently broken. It took a lot of work but I met my SO 6 months after that horrible breakup and the only reason I was ready was because I had been in therapy that whole time. I’ve been with my SO for 1.5 years and we have an appointment at the jewelers in 2 weeks to look at engagement rings.

I thought my awful ex Boyfriend or Best Friend was the one for me and I was dead wrong. When we broke up I literally said that I would never love again. I was just so wrong. Therapy helps so much because even when you meet the right person you will probably still have trust issues. I’m still in therapy today and I love it! My current relationship is the best I have ever had and even though it’s not perfect I have never for one second thought I would want my ex back. My SO is just so much better for me, it’s like night and day. My sister said to me “sometimes the good things you experience in the wrong relationship are just reflections of the goodness inside of you.” She was right. I know you think you’re relationship was the one but I’m guessing that’s because you are a good person, and there is someone out there for you that will never let you go. You need to take care of yourself so you can be who you are and someday, a while from now, find that person.

Post # 12
170 posts
Blushing bee

@Packers12:  my fiance and I split this time last year.  It gets better.  It is HARD but it gets better.  :::hugs:::  feel free to pm

Post # 13
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Packers12:  It might help if you changed your name to Redskins12 …sorry, had to.

Sorry you’re still hurting over it all, but try and keep busy. Think of some things that you’ve been wanting to learn / do, and make a goal to do one of those things each week. At least that will keep you occupied, and it will give you some focus on something other than her.

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