Post # 16
When you say that cbt was just loads of paper work, how many sessions had you done? The first session is always intake, and my intake spilled into the second session.
I agree that one therapist does not fit all but I’m wondering how many sessions were filled with nothing but paper work.
Post # 17
Hi, I had 8 sessions, it was the same every week.
Post # 18
Definitely try someone else!! Good luck.
Post # 19
There are a lot of bad things that can happen in the world. There are the ones we are anxious about and even ones we havent thought to be anxious about. Most of them will never happen to you. A couple of them likely will. You will draw on your inner strength as a person, and likely also the strength of your husband and your relationship, to get through whatever bad things might happen in the future. Your faith in yourself and your relationship will be your best defense against all the bad stuff. It helps to try to remain in the present, and do what you can in the present to make yourself healthy, both physically and mentally. This is all you can do, and it is the best you can do.
What does that mean? For me, it was listening to audiobooks, going for walks, playing with my dogs, praying, buying a fetal doppler, making dinner with my husband. For you, it might be very different things. I was so scared during my pregnancy with my daughter. I had a lot of bleeding, they thought my baby had down syndrome, I had recently had a miscarriage, 3 of my friends recently had stillborn babies, and I couldn’t stop thinking about my cousin’s daughter who died at 2 weeks old. People told me not to worry and that everything would be fine, but I wanted to punch them because they didn’t have any idea if everything would be fine or not. I got hold of myself by accepting that I would get through it whether everything was fine or not. I still refused to let people buy me stuff or announce my pregnancy on social media. But eventually I started secretly buying items with my baby’s name on them, because there was no point in denying how much I already loved her. I don’t know if that is helpful to you, but I hope it is. Don’t be afraid to get further help if that is what you think you need. But just know that other people do feel this way, and you can get through it.
Post # 20
please listen to the bees telling you to talk to a therapist. Anxiety in pregnancy is normal. This level of anxiety however is not normal or healthy.
Fwiw I do understand where you’re coming from: I was truly 100% convinced that I was going to have a MC and then a still birth. By 38 weeks I was sobbing weekly in my OBs office because I was insistent that the baby was born before anything could happen to him. I was constantly doing kick counts – sure that he’d stopped moving. I went in because my water was leaking (it wasn’t). I was a wreck. It’s no way to live and it’s not healthy for the baby. Luckily everything was fine with my son. He came at 40+4 and is very healthy.