(Closed) Can’t handle another death… (Long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so sorry for all your loss and grief this last year! Its a terrible thing to lose those we love. My Uncle was told he only had 1-4 days to live when he was diagnosed with stomach cancer this last November. He ended up living almost 3 months. 3 months may not seem like a lot to most people, but when you know time is limited, 3 months is a blessing. *hugs* I do hope you too get the gift of more time.

Post # 4
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m really sorry for your loss.  I’m not Christian (was raised Jewish, beliefs are more deistic/agnostic), but I think there’s a continuum on how active people believe God (or whatever overarching power there is) can be in everyday life.  Just because there is pain and suffering in this world doesn’t mean that there’s not something more, or something better, or something after…

*hugs*

Post # 6
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i know that nothing I can say – or anyone here for that matter – can make things any easier for you. I totally understand what you’re going through – truly, the 4 months surrounding the September 11th attacks I dealt with 4 deaths – 1 including my great-aunt/godmother who I loved more than anything and still to this day regret not having seen more before she passed and a good friend from high school who died a day after the attacks in a car accident. Needless to say that was a bad time. BUT time does heal all. Just remember that (hopefully you are religious) that there is a much better place waiting for them where they will no longer be in any pain or suffering. I know that’s not something you want to hear – you want them to stay here with you – but truly you want them to not suffer anymore.

And – the way I’ve always believed, while some things here on earth make no sense at all – eternal peace in heaven is worth what one may have to endure on earth. I am not saying that to make you mad (hopefullly it doesn’t) but more try and help put you at peace.

anyways – just wanted to send you (((((HUGS))))) and hope you feel better!!!

Post # 7
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sorry to hear your situation 🙁 Can I do anything to help? I am in NZ – Auckland.

Suxs being so far away huh, I know its only a 3 hour flight but its the costs when you have a wedding fast approaching huh.

Post # 9
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry for your loss and the illness of your godfather.  That is just so hard to deal with.

Post # 10
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Will see what I can do….. lol

Post # 12
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I am so sorry, my prayers are with you.  Loss of those we love is hard. 

Post # 14
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i totally get the suffering thing…honestly – as much as it hurt me when my grandmother died – it was such a relief to all of us that she was no longer in pain. She suffered literally 3 heart attacks a year (if not more) for almost 10 years before she passed…my mother had the hospital on speed dial on her cell phone!

we cried. it sucked more than anything – but at the same time – after she passed on and the mourning was over the wave of relief my mother and I felt (and i’m sure others did too) that she was no longer in pain was awesome. But I admit even to this day, 6 years later – I still mourn when I think about how much I miss her.

I wish for you to feel better and don’t let what is happening affect your health. you need to be strong for yourself as you KNOW that’s what he’d want.

Post # 15
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh, sometimes lifes sucks, ya know? I’m so sorry. I’ve dealt with quite a bit of death in my life, particularly when I was in school. First my maternal grandpa died (on my birthday no less), then 3 years later my paternal grandpa (who I was very close to), then 2 mo later my uncle, then 3 years later my maternal grandma, then 2 years later my paternal great grandma. So I guess my point is… I kind of know where you are. And it sucks. And it doesn’t get easier.

There is some SMALL part of you that needs to be relieved that he will be out of his suffering, because it isn’t fair to him to live like that. But its totally normal to be angry at the world, at the universe, even at God for making him sick at all. Its not fair that some die young and some live to be 100. Its not fair that some people lose more people they care about than others. Time does heal some wounds, but there are STILL days over a decade later that I miss one of the people I’ve lost so much. Lean on your family and friends. Cry when you need to. I’m sorry 🙁

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