- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
So I need somewhere safe to vent this, because FI’s parents think it isn’t a big deal and I’m not talking to my mother right now.
To preface my post, Fiance is the third of his father’s six children (three boys with wife #1, three girls with wife #2). His older brothers were identical twins. The “first-born” twin who we’ll call T has always had to be the center of attention since he was very small and has a lot of control, violence, substance abuse and rage issues. When his twin brother E killed himself last September he became even further disconnected from his family.
In about January of last year he started seeing this woman C after having broken up with his last short term girlfriend who threatened to call the police when she discovered he was stalking her (he has been arrested for stalking women before). Their relationship started off badly with her cheating on him, falling pregnant and getting an abortion on Valentines Day of last year. And of course his reaction was to steal her shoes from the abortion clinic…but anyway, they continued to have nasty fights (sometimes physical) for months until he one day brought her home in April.
We all tried our best to try to put out of our minds what we already knew about her, but she was so rude, abrasive and frankly disgusting (giving Future Brother-In-Law a rub down under the table next to FI’s nine year old sister? Who does that?!) that we all knew she was not for us. Regardless, we all were very nice to her to make FI’s brother happy. But since Fiance and got engaged last December, Future Brother-In-Law has been especially hostile towards us so it didn’t matter what we did we were being mean to her.
Shortly after we met her they announced that they were pregnant and since she’s used up all her free abortions (our province gives you three for free) they were keeping it. She kept drinking, smoking and eating pot brownies…but they were keeping it. And as a result they wanted to move out of their townhouse (they moved in together less than a month before with a two year lease), and wanted my help (I work as a paralegal at a corporate law firm) to draft a notice to terminate their lease based on deficiencies in the property. Long story short, they lied to me about the deficiencies, the notice that I spent days drafting for free was invalid on its face and FBIl threatened his landlady and her two young children at their home that he’d burn their house down with them inside if they didn’t let him out of the lease. We helped them move into their new place.
Anyway, in September of this year she has the baby at 21 weeks and it died (it was later determined the yeast infection that she’d let rage for 5 months was what killed the baby in utero). Fiance, FI’s oldest sister and I took care of them, cleaned up their new house so there wasn’t blood everywhere when she came home. At the hospital she’s laughing and carrying on about how she wants to try for another one…I just kind of stared but I figured this was how she was grieving so I shouldn’t judge her. Well the next day they have pictures of their poor, emaciated dead baby all over their facebook accounts. To be really honest I was almost sick over how wrong it was, and these photos are still their profile photos to this day.
Anyway, in September FI’s oldest sister (who is 17) came to me and told me she’s pregnant by her ex. She has still not told her family, I posted about this on here a month or so ago. Regardless me and her are talking about it when we have a chance to see each other which is usually at family events. C has decided that for whatever reason we are talking about her, and therein does not like us. She’s told Future Brother-In-Law that he’s not allowed to come to our wedding, that FI’s family is too “depressing” and that I am a miserable person for standing by my Fiance after his brother died (still figuring that one out).
I can’t stand her Bees, she starts so much drama in FI’s family and she’s frankly ruining FBIL’s life. Furthermore, she’s always making rude comments about my Father-In-Law that he doesn’t know about that would break his heart. Should I say something to this lunatic at long last, or should I continue to weather the nonsense for my Future Brother-In-Law who continually blames all of their problems with the family on me and FI?
Sorry that was so long, that’s months of unsaid stuff I needed to get out!