(Closed) Can’t handle FBIL or his trashy girlfriend

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would say something, she sounds insane!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just to clarify- I believe Future Brother-In-Law is ruining his OWN life (she’s not helping).

I’m not sure there is anything you can say that will rectify this. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@FutureJessicaMcB:  If he’s been arrested in the past for stalking other women, he obviously has his own pre-existing issues.  She’s not helping, but she’s definitely not the catalyst.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She sounds like she has a lot of issues that need to be worked out. Until she receives the healing she needs she will continue to be ridiculous 🙁   I don’t think confronting her or telling others what is going on will really help.  I would just avoid her when possible and when not kill her with kindness. All you can do is refuse to be sucked into the drama. ((Hugs)) Sorry you are going thru this.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is so messed up. My advice: try to stay out of it as much as possible. :/ I wouldn’t want to be remotely involved. I do agree there may be something wrong with these people mentally….

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@FutureJessicaMcB: I know a little something about crazy family members. Future Sister-In-Law got knocked up by a guy after knowing him a month and has had another baby with this guy ( and is looking pregnant again). SHe has no friends, and i have tried really hard to be there for her.But every time i think things are good between us, she blows up on me. One time we got into a physical fight. So right now were not talking becuase of FIS mom. She got me involve insomething that wasnt my business. But the guy shes married to, puts all of his needs over his families. She has a car that she never gets to use because hes too lazy to walk to work, which is literally accross the street from their house, and he bought a dog before he paid to get their phones turned back on. He has isolated her from everyone she knows, and i have heard him say he wished she wouldnt go over to her parents house.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Future Brother-In-Law sees nothing wrong and ‘lets’ her be a psycho. I dont htink anything anyone can say will change his mind or show him ‘the light’. it might drive him to her more and cause more drama. Would be easier to just not deal with either of them

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

You can’t control what pics they post on FB, but you can unfriend them or hide their status updates so you don’t have to see it. And you can’t tell Future Brother-In-Law who to date or to break up wtih his Girlfriend, he has to figure that out on his own.

What you can do is be upfront with him and say that you know he lied to you about the apartment and as a result you won’t be helping him out anymore from a legal standpoint. And it’s up to you if you help his Girlfriend out anymore with any types of issues. If you disagree with what she’s doing you can just walk away when her apartment needs cleaning, etc.

Since you have continued to help Future Brother-In-Law and his Girlfriend and all they’ve done in response is stomp down on you, lie to you and insult you – I think it’s time to wash your hands of them. Your Fiance can help his brother if he wants to, but I think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to remain uninvolved from here on out.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just leave it alone. I don’t think saying anything to her will help at all. I would be there when they contact Fiance and not avoid them, but I wouldn’t contact them without a need.

As far as the pictures on facebook, while it might not be appropriate, it isn’t really your place to judge. Maybe acknowledging that part of there family is gone is healing to both of them.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@FutureJessicaMcB:Wow they both sound terrifying. They both need serious help. I’m pretty sure photos like that can be flagged on FB.

I don’t think she totally deserves all the blame. He was doing crazy stuff before, maybe the family was just more willing to ignore it? But now that he found someone that is just like him, its harder to pretend it isn’t a problem.

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