(Closed) Can’t Handle This Any More – What Can I Do? (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow. He sounds like a keeper. Does she have self-esteem issues to stay with him so long? Does he verbally abuse her? if so, she may need some sort of outside help to lift the veil from her eyes.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnonymousBee13:  In that case, I know you’re probably tired of hearing about it, but after nine years, I would consider this a “divorce” type of situation. They say it takes half as long as you’ve been together to truly get over an ex, so it may take her a bit longer [especially if she believes he is the only one who will ever love her, like a lot of abusers make you think]. I don’t really have great advice, because it’s easier said than done, but try to lift her up so she knows she’s worth something, then focus on how good you have it wih your fiance. Maybe that will help you to enjoy your engagement more. Sorry I can’t help more!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnonymousBee13:  I hope so too. I was in a verbally abusive relationship, but luckily it was only for 2 years. It definitely takes time. It took me a long time to trust my now Fiance, just because I didn’t believe him when he said he loved me and that nothing could change his mind. It seemed like he shouldn’t because I was un-lovable. But, once I realized he did love me, it made it more special.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

Just be supportive of her. Let other friends and family shower you with excitement over your upcoming wedding. Unfortunately love isn’t like a tap- you can just turn it off. As long as your sister is getting the help and support she needs she will eventually see the relationship for what it is and move on to happier times. This could take 1 year or 5 years.

But be prepared that she might go back to him int he meantime. Unfortunately it can happen in absuive relationships.

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