Post # 1
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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
Ah! These boards have been so helpful to me…reading how everyone seems like they can relate to my craziness!
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years, and we’ve been talking about wedding related stuff for the last month or two and I’m getting antsy! He’s asked me what kind of ring I want and said we can go ring shopping soon, we’ve talked about getting married next summer, if we’ll have an open bar, who we’re inviting…but just no proposal yet!
His family keeps asking him when he’s going to do it and he says “soon!” Since we’re planning to get married May or June next year, I told him I’ll need at least 9-10 months to plan AND I told him that lots of places need to be booked a year in advance! that means the proposal will probably happen sometime between next month and the end of this summer! I’m getting antsy and as you can see, already signed up for WeddingBee and have bookmarked TONS of websites for ideas. LOL..
I’m crazy aren’t I? How do you guys tone down the crazy in front of the bf? I try not to talk about it in front of him, and I usually just let him bring up any sort of wedding topic. But I’m about to burst! lol…
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Sound sooooooo exciting! Welcome to WB (try not to get addicted, haha)
Good luck toning down the crazy, lol. I have periods of good times and periods of “bad” times when I can’t keep from thinking about it and therefore don’t keep my mouth shut too well. I think you’ll find a lot of us waiting Bees are in the same boat!! It’s good to know you’re not alone.
I am hoping for a summertime proposal, good luck to all of us! I hope your time is soon!
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
well, considering my mister and i just went over the google wedding planner spreadsheets yesterday and we plan on checking out a venue next month, i’m not quite sure i’m in any position to advise you how to tone down the crazy. lol.
but this is what these boards are for! if you don’t want to bring it up in front of him, bring it up here. a lot of bees use this as a place to get things out of their system. i’m like you though, i usually let him bring it up and i try not to jump on it and be super eager to vomit out all my ideas but its so hard!
Post # 5
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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
Thanks for the support girls!!
I also forgot to mention we’re going to JAMAICA in 4 weeks. I’m really trying to tell myself that it probably won’t happen then, cuz it doesn’t seem like he’s really planned much…plus he’s mentioned we should go ring shopping and we haven’t yet (even though I’ve shown him pictures of exactly what I like lol). I’m kinda freaking out cuz my head is telling me it won’t happen so soon, but I feel like my heart will be pitter pattering any time we are somewhere romantic or see a sunset (which basically means every day during our trip.)
i will try to enjoy myself during the trip…and NOT psyche myself out into being disappointed if nothing happens.
One of my best friend’s is also getting married in Oct and I’m one of the bridesmaids…which gives us ample opportunity to talk about weddings lol.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
@jeannes85 woo I’m so excited for you! it would be really sweet if he remembered the ring you showed him and he ordered it around that time but hes yanking your chain and making you go “ring shopping” when he already has one one the way! haha that would be pretty cute anyways good luck and don’t worry about toning it down… I don’t even know if its possible cause once you get excited the ideas just start pouring and reading the blogs on here just adds to the ideas. Good luck on your trip to Jamaica! I hope your proposal is everything you want it to be!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@jeannes85:
I’m right there in the crazies with you! “Feeling like I’m about to burst…” is putting it lightly 😉
Thank goodness we can come here and share our anticipation and excitement…
Wouldn’t it be awesome if he proposed in Jamaica!!!!
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
You’re not crazy. You’re just excited. 🙂 Be excited! It sounds like everything is right around the corner for the both of you. But I think you’re handling it in the right way by letting him broach the subject. Can’t wait to hear some good news!!!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Welcome!
I say by all means start planning, don’t worry about the proposal, planning will keep your mind off of it too.
I’m having an elopement and already feel overwhelmed, so if you’re having a full out wedding you’ll probably appreciated sorting your thoughts at least early on before making solid plans/purchases.
Good luck!
Post # 10
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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
haha it WOULD be pretty amazing if he did it in Jamaica, but I keep telling myself he won’t and listing all the cons…like ring safety and getting it dirty in sand/ocean areas. It’s a defense mechanism to hopefully not feel (too much) disapointment!
Have you girls started thinking about venues and themes yet? I’ve pretty much narrowed down to 3 venues, pretty sure about the photographer, flowers and theme!
I think I’m going for a “secret garden” inspired theme…a bit antiquey, wild flowers, bird cages, kind of shabby chic!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@jeannes85: love those ideas!
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@jeannes85: um, we have the wedding almost all planned. lol. but what can you expect when you’ve been talking marriage for almost 5 years now!
Post # 14
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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2012 - Hollins House at Pasatiempo, Santa Cruz CA
arg! I had dinner with my bf’s family this weekend and everyone started asking when we were going to get engaged. His grandpa event went to the extreme and said that now that we’re living together, people will “talk”.
His dad kept asking me MULTIPLE times, so when are u two getting engaged? I got slightly annoyed and said “why don’t you ask him!” (with a slight smile).
Arg! don’t they realize i dont have much say in the matter?
(sorry for the venting, lol)
