(Closed) Can't I just enjoy being a newlywed?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I started Uni so I use that as an excuse but people like babies and so they do like to ask.

It gets frustrating, especially when you dont plan on ever having one 🙂

Post # 18
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My mom is the one that has been asking us about kids since we were engaged. It was super annoying and I would tell her to stop, but she loved to ask it in a ‘joking’ way in front of a lot of people. I am also amazed at how many people at our actual wedding asked us if we were planning on a honeymoon baby. Now granted, I was actually already 5 weeks pregnant at the wedding, but no one knew that. Now that our families know that I am pregnant, my mom keeps bugging us that she wants twins and my Mother-In-Law keeps reminding us that she wants a girl. Nothing I can control and that is what I tell them, but they still continue to remind us constantly. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I assume it’s the same phenomenon that makes people ask me “how are the wedding plans coming” every blessed time they see me. It’s replace “how are you.” Whatevs.  

Post # 20
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

they are just making conversation… well lets just hope so!

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh I’m sorry you’re going through this as well. DH’s family fully expects us to have a baby to bring to a family wedding next June. They don’t believe us when we told them we weren’t sure if we wanted kids and would be waiting at least five years if we do decide to have them.

All I hear from them is stories about how they (his mom and aunt) had a baby less than 45 weeks after the wedding. Thankfully my family hasn’t made a peep. However, my cousin already has a couple kids but on DH’s side we would be the first if we had one now. I wonder if that’s why they keep pressuring us.

Anyways, I’m sick of fake smiling and saying “maybe someday” when they bring it up. I just want to enjoy being with my husband for a bit! I used to be one of those people who just advised bees to smile and get over it but now I understand why it’s so frustrating!

 

Post # 22
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Got asked if I was pregnant when we announced our engagement by some……and I’ve been getting the “it will be you soon” every time a baby is mentioned…..we havent got married yet. Gah.

 

Some people are enthusiastic, some, are nuts.

Post # 24
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775 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Overjoyed:  Yes! This.

 

And also ‘how’s the new house?’ (we just purchased in February). Um.. it’s still standing.. ?

Post # 25
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354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

yeah, I hate that too. But, my rule is if you ask about babies, you’re signing up for babysitting duties 🙂 The questions have since slowed. 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know right? It got so insane I had to talk to a counselor about it. No kidding. One day the whole baby pressure thing got so out of hand at work I broke down crying. I’ve started telling people I can’t have kids so they stop. It’s so ridiculious. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No one ever asked me that when we ran off and got married.  I guess it’s a side effect of being in my mid-40s.  LOL

Post # 28
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My cousin asked my Fiance when we were going to start having babies, and we’re not even married yet.  My Fiance has no tolerance for such intrusive questions so before I could say anything, he just straight up told her, “That’s a really personal question and we’re not going to discuss it.”

 

I wanted to kiss him on the spot.  (BTW, she hasn’t asked since 😉

Post # 29
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Unfortunatelly, it doesn’t get any better as time goes by 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I hate this. FH and I have been asked this a lot since we got engaged, and my brother and SIL are having their first child (any day now! Eek! So excited!) so of course “They’re having theirs; when is yours coming?” Seriously? Get out of my uterus, people! Even setting aside the fact that my medical history may make it difficult (maybe even impossible) for us to have kids (so difficult topic to discuss) when did this become appropriate?

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LessIsMoore:  Holy smokes! You’re a student and they ask that! That is insane. I assume anyone in school is going to wait. Rude question at any time, but sheesh, it’s like they’re encouraging you to get knocked up and drop out.

People be crazy.

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