(Closed) Can't I just enjoy being a newlywed?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to be super careful about mentioning anything baby related to anyone, really.  One time I mentioned making a baby blanet for a pregnant co-worker and it got my grandma into a tizzy because she thought was pregnant and going to give her her first great-grandbaby.  Whenever anyone asks me about having kids on my side of the family, I tell them to go and bug the people who are already married if they want a baby around so badly 😛

Post # 33
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2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@HVbride:  No, you can’t. You must procreate NOW

Post # 34
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Fizzy8: LOL I should have explained that I am also turning 29 this year, but yeah I am doing 30 hours of study plus working full time 40 hours… I am not quite sure where a baby would even fit in.

I dont think my friends and family expect me to drop out of Uni, just hope that I will add a baby to the mix (um no thanks lol).

People love babys though, the few in our circle of friends are a hit. So I think its just that people want another baby to play with.

Post # 35
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@TracyCate:  Haha good for him.

My mom’s had baby fever basically my whole relationship w/ Fiance it will be 3 years on Christmas. But she knows I will be mad if I accidentally got preggo now. I don’t think it needs to be assessed seriously I haven’t actually had too many people say it yet though. I am hoping to be pregnant within a year as long as we have a house..that’s my main priority after the wedding. I probably will be one of those people who say different things to different people to make them crazy, serves them right for being rude. haha

Post # 36
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Exie:  And when you have a kid, “When are you giving him/her a little brother/sister?”

Holy crap, lay off it already!

I’ve only been asked once since the wedding, but various relatives have been needling me about it for years.  My dad started in BEFORE I WAS ENGAGED!  He just mentioned it out of the blue one day that he wanted grandkids before he retired.  Completely took me off guard.  Thanks Dad, no pressure!

Unfortunately, the Baby Fever hit me at my last birthday, 3 months before the wedding, but DH wants 3 more years and doesn’t seem willing to budge.  I’m not aware of any possible problems (but I’m paranoid that my pill is masking something), but just the fact that I want them and have to wait for awhile hurts enough, without having DH’s cousins’s babies shoved in my arms and a million “you look so CUTE holding a baby!” comments.  I get that people are just trying to make polite conversation most of the time, but you have NO IDEA how much of a sensative and painful topic it could be to some people.  I wish more people thought about that.

Post # 37
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585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Exie:  And once you have the first kid: “when are you having a second baby?” etc.

People are just curious and making conversation.  I generally just respond with “I have a puppy.  That’s good enough for now.”.  And when I used to get asked when I was getting married, I used to make up a random date (something like June 31, not everyone caught on).  They’d stop asking because they would ask assuming it would make me uncomfortable.

Post # 38
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@HVbride:  when the time is right.

 

that way they get the hint that its too much they ask

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