Post # 1
Because of budget constraints for my wedding reception this summer, I won’t be able to invite the majority of my high school and university friends, and I’ve been feeling terrible because of this. Me and my Darling Husband have been living overseas so we had a small ceremony here already, but we want to have something meaningful for family and friends back home. But my Darling Husband and I have little money (parents are paying) so we are excluding many friends. Only inviting closest friends from 2 big groups of friends, and excluding the rest.
I don’t know what to do. I want to include everyone, and I feel that if I don’t this will destroy relationships with those uninvited friends (although I’m living overseas, so our relationship is not very strong now anyways). All I can think of is to have a separate party for friends who I can’t invite to the main reception, where we aren’t hosting but just out celebrating together…but then I don’t think it’s fair to them. What can I do??
Post # 3
Real friends will understand.
If you can’t afford to have them at the wedding it’s a shame but their is not much more that you can do. This seems to happen often and people do understand:)
Post # 4
@Holly77: I agree with this. We had to cut our wedding down to 25 family members and my friends understood. We are gong to throw a bbq reception for the rest of my friends and family, everybody seems pretty excited about that! I’m also quite excited about having “two” receptions now. One fancy and one really laid back!
You also wouldnt get to see your friends a ton at the wedding anyways, you will be busy being married!!
Post # 5
@distressed: Have a separate reception and keep it cheap (barbeque or chinese food)
Post # 6
If the most important part to you is to celebrate with your friends, then. cut costs elsewhere. Booze and food are usually a good place to start. Maybe one of your friends/family members would be willing to organize a potluck, for example.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
You could have a party inviting them after but don’t let it be like the “b-list” wedding. A friend of the family did this and we felt insulted.
I am in the same boat- parents made me invite mostly family and their friends and out of 130, only 10 are exclusively my friends (and 4 are in the wedding party. Pathetic and upsetting).