(Closed) Can't look at wedding stuff anymore

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I prob shouldnt reply as I am no longer waiting but I did wait a while (over 14 years).  But by then I was kind of over it, I mean I am excited now but prob would have been way more excited if Fiance had propsed in my 20s.  Also would have been nice if he did it when I was in the best shape of my life then, now I have some weight to lose…

How long have you been waiting?  I hope he hurry’s up for your sake.  

Post # 5
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2949 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Moto:  First of all, sending a virtual hug your way. I’m sorry that you’re feeling like this and you shouldn’t have to. Have you tried talking to him about this lately and letting him know how you’re feeling?

Post # 6
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Moto:  yeah sometimes I feel like its a bit of a power trip? or something.  My Fiance said it was cause we didnt have the money but I would have been happy with a simple ring and simple wedding. I still give him a bit of stick now and then about it…Does your Fiance have people in his family who are happily married?  I think my Fiance was raised to think marrage wasnt impt etc.  That prob influenced him more than he cares to think.

Post # 7
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78 posts
Worker bee

I understand how you feel.  10 years this year.  I stopped nagging SO and stopped looking at wedding stuff for the most part.  I do still come here because I enjoy the boards.

He knows how I feel and I thought at the beginning of the year we were finally on the same page, but still no proposal.  I’m still hopeful it will happen this year but at this rate, I don’t know.  I’ve been feeling especially down about the whole situation lately.  

How long are you willing to wait?  I know I’ve been asking myself that recently :/  

  

Post # 8
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh I feel you! Hugs!!

  I stopped looking the other day because it was making me crazy, and I’m tired of going out some where and being like maybe its going to happen. And then it doesnt.

  I hope he asks soon for you!!

Post # 9
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am feeling the same way these days.  I need to stop thinking about it.  But i hope it will happen for you soon. 

Post # 10
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699 posts
Busy bee

@Moto:  I know EXACTLY how you feel, I want to get excited but can’t anymore, I’ve waited for too long and the excitment has died….how sad is that, if he asked me tomorrow, I’d be, ok, sure…

Post # 11
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1222 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think I’m feeling the same way. Just not really into it right now. I sent him some ring suggestions like a week ago and then kinda just threw up the white flag until further notice. blah. And I’m trying to muster up excitement for a trip we’re taking to Hawaii right now….but even that isn’t doing the trick because both my mom AND his mom have decided that if it doesn’t happen there, he’s nuts. So yeah. Hooray. LOL don’t get me wrong, I want to go, but it’s like the entire world knows that it’s our anniversary and is pretty much certain (how do THEY know, but I don’t?) that it’s going to happen there.  But I’m over the whole thing for now and am trying not to think about it anymore.

Post # 12
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1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sometimes it’s easy to get burnt out on wedding “stuff”, especially when you can’t take any of your inspirations and make them reality.

With my ex, looking at wedding magazines was an easy way to fantasize what might be, especially since I thought we were really going to get engaged soon.  When I realized that he was never going to ask me to marry him, it really crushed a lot of my plans to have the “perfect” wedding.  Now that I’m with my current SO, who talks a lot about getting married, it’s hard to drum up the excitement.  I’d still like to have a nice wedding, but it’s about gotten to the point where I feel like I’ve seen “everything” and I just want things to be simple and easy.

Maybe do some things for you, like organizing your space and tackling some personal projects you might have (I have so many sewing projects I’d like to do that it’s hard to know where to start).  That might tide you over in the mean time.

Post # 13
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483 posts
Helper bee

@Tiger29:  I’ve been dating my SO for five years, and I’m starting to ask myself the same question…. How long am I willing to wait? I love him so much. And our relationship is wonderful…. but this waiting is getting harder and harder. HOw do you know when to walk away????? I’m amazed you have waited for ten years! What has kept you going?

 

PS: I have a wedding board on pinterest called “Happily Never After”, because I have been feeling like my SO is NEVER going to propose!!!!

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