(Closed) Can’t make anyone happy :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Do what makes YOU happy. It is still your wedding, and it isn’t being cancelled or postponed through any fault of your own. Everyone else should just deal with it.

Post # 5
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@nhoh: I didn’t mean to make it sound like it’s your FSIL’s fault for getting pregnant, I totally realized that’s how it sounded, lol.

I think if you sit them down and explain what you really want and why, it will be easier for everyone to handle. People are going to feel guilty, regardless, it’s just a matter of how much.

Post # 6
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@reine_de_rien:Totally agree. Do what makes you and Fiance happy, OP. The change wasn’t your choice, but you should be able to decide what happens next. Others will just have to deal and learn to be supportive. *hugs* Hope that your new plans go well for you two!

Post # 7
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Cancel the wedding and just have a small cermony and dinner with our families – This is the option Fiance and I want.

Go for this option then, definitely. It’s great that you want to be accomodating, but they can’t ask you to cancel their weddings and then ask you to try and juggle all their other terms and wants. This is about you guys and what you want, it wasn’t your idea to cancel the wedding. I’d go for the small ceremony option, and saving money is never a bad thing. 

Post # 8
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you have to do what makes you happy, but I wouldn’t make any big decisions for a couple of weeks because you’re probably too emotional right now.

As someone who is postponing their wedding an entire year, I get where you’re coming from.  It sucks.. really bad.  FI and I could have done our own thing and gotten what we wanted, but it just wasn’t worth all of the hurt feelings.  MY family having fun and enjoying this whole process MAKES us happy.  It took me a while to get over my hurt feelings, but I’m at a good place right now and I know we made the right decision for us.  Deep down I know I want my huge wedding with my entire extended family there.

So, my advise is to wait a couple weeks and think about what you and your fiance really want. Once you’ve decided, let everyone know and they’ll all just have to deal with it.

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