Post # 1
I just received an invitation to a December wedding back East that I’m unable to attend. I’m not sure how to gift them. Their RSVP was on their wedding website so I already said no on the website and sent an email saying that I couldn’t make it and thanking them for thinking of me for their special day.
They have a registry and a honeymoon fund site. If I got something off the registry I’m assuming I would have to ship it to them? I’ve never used an online registry and don’t know how they work. The honeymoon fund minimums are higher than I can afford so I’ve already ruled that out. I know I should send them a congratulations card – I would send that closer to the wedding, not now, right? Would it be okay to just send them a check with the card instead? That seems easiest for me since I’m on the other side of the country but I don’t want to be rude either!
Thanks for the help!
Post # 3
@Mrslawyer2bee: I wouldn’t ship them a gift…it would be a bit much especially with shipment I think. I think sending them a cheque or cash in a card is good enough! I would say send it a month before the wedding. I’ve noticed couples love getting their gifts ASAP so they can set up everything.
Best of luck.
Post # 4
I’m not certain, but if you do not attend the wedding you do not have to give a gift. However it would be a really nice gesture for you to do that! My fiance and I were invited to his groomsmens wedding last June and couldn’t make it, but decided to buy a gift for them anyway, because we really liked them. The registry is very simple. All you have to do is go on the site of their registry, find their list of items and choose something off of it. The item will ship to their house and you can just leave a note on the gift. It’s really the thought that counts. So if you are worried about $ you can probably find something of reasonable value on the registry.
Post # 5
Either a card with a check, or something off the registry mailed to them – this info should be included, or at least listed as an option with checkout, as the couple should have provided their address. I guess it depends on the store.
You won’t seem rude. They’ll be really grateful that you thought of them.
ETA: never feel bad about giving a check vs. a honeymoon registry. $ registries deduct a percentage (7.5%+) for their services. When you give a check, 100% of your gift is going to them, not 92.5%.
Post # 6
A card with a check is just fine!
Post # 7
I’d get something off the registry but I am also never a fan of gifting cash. Too impersonal, IMO.
Many stores that people commonly register at do free shipping so you could likely ship it directly to them for no additional expense!
Post # 8
The online registry’s are super easy. You just go to the website and search for the registry (usu on top of the website). Then you pick out the gift and add it to your cart like you would ording anything online. Then it is automatically shipped to their address.
If you can’t figure that out, I would just send a card with a check about 1 month before the wedding.
Post # 9
I agree, have it shipped directly to them from the online registry. That way you don’t have to pay double shipping, and it is way more personable than cash!