(Closed) Can't make it to the bachelorette party..

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
4874 posts
Honey bee

Well, asking her to choose was probably a mistake before you even looked into the logistics of it.  Just be honest and express your remorse that you can’t make it work.  “Friend, after looking into flights and the amount of vacation time I would need to take, I just can’t make the bachelorette party work.  I’m really sorry about that and wish I could be there for everything.  However, I can make the shower and I’m really looking forward to that.”

Honestly, I would never expect anyone, even if they are part of the wedding, to travel for a shower (or even a bachelorette, but I’m not big on the destination, multi-day bachelorette thing anyway).  But if it’s important to both of you, then try to make one of those two things work and keep the focus on what you can participate in.


Post # 3
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Just be straight up and tell her you won’t be able to make the bach party due to vacation hours. If she is a good friend she will be completely understanding. I honestly wouldn’t travel that far for anyone’s shower or bach party even if I was in the wedding.

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