(Closed) Cant pick dress!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My mom always told me, “If you can’t decide, none are right.”

BUT, I’m not picky about my clothing so I let Fiance choose. Wink

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I never had that moment, no. I had lots of “I like this one the best” moments! I ended up buying THREE dresses bc I was so confused; I returned one and I’m trying to sell the other. I would say keep looking or sit on it a little longer and you’ll figure it out. Also posting pics on here is helpful because you get lots of feedback!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think I ever had the SYTTD moment where I started crying and just knew I found the dress. However, I did feel a little more beautiful and happy in one dress over all the others. I went with that one.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I absolutely LOVE the Tara Keely, you can’t really go wrong with that one 😉

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would say if possible, go somewhere you are allowed to take pictures… I’ve found it really helpful to go back and review because some of the ones I liked in the store I didn’t like so much in pictures!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Please if I can give you any advice at all… WAIT!!!!  (If your wedding is in May 2013)  Trust me, if you’re confused now, buying a dress you’re not absolutely positive about will make you crazy.  Just read the dress regret threads…. 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, I just don’t feel like you’ve found it yet.

I think you need to keep looking and maybe try on a dress you don’t think you’ll like. I found what worked for me is first narrowing it down to my absolutes. I wanted a dropped waist ballgown, sweetheart neckline, tulle, moderate beading, corset back.

Try on all styles and narrow it down so that way when you walk in a place you can say I would like to try on all dresses that have these qulaities. You still have a lot of time. I waited til the last minute and regreted doing so because it put more stress on me, so don’t do that, but don’t commit to a dress yet. Also remember certain things can be altered like a corset back, or sweetheart neckline.

I found a lot of dresses I liked but none that I fell in love with until I found “the one” It’s a lot like the guy you’re marrying, sometimes people will ask you how do you know, and questions like that and sometimes the only thing you can say is, you just know, it just feels right, I couldn’t imagine it any other way. Not everyone but most people wil say they felt the same way about a dress.

You’ll look stunning no matter what decision you make and you’re Fiance will think the same thing!

Good Luck! Keep us posted!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t get ‘the one’ feeling until I had already purchased it and went back to try it on 5 months after I bought it (it’s been sitting the bridal salon for safe keeping).

When I first found it I was out looking with my mom.  I was somewhat sad, although I had plenty of time (this was in October of 2011, I’m getting married Sept. of this year), I was getting the feeling I wasn’t going to find a dress I liked in my budget (max $300).

My mom suggested this boutique that I thought would be way too expensive but I decided to appease her anyway.

The owner of the salon was working it that day and I told her everything I wanted: simple, a line, corset, side gathering, sweetheart neckline.  She asked me my budget and I prepared for the scoffing when I said $300.  She was totally supportive though and was like “We can do that no problem!”

She pulled about 7 dresses.  I loved two of them but was undecided.  I brought my posse (both bms mom and fmil lol) in and they loved the one I was leaning towards.  It was $230 and I was super comfy in it so I bought it.

The only catch was it’s a size 12 (off the rack) and I’m a size 4 so I couldn’t really get a true idea of what it would look like on me.  I kept looking at the pictures and thinking I looked not even remotely feminine.  

I voiced my opinions to my mom this month and she suggested we go back and try it on under the premise that I wanted to try it on with my new undergarments (I got a knock off nubra I was curious to see if it would help boost the girls a bit (I’m an a cup)).

We went back this weekend the consultant was super nice and had my dress waiting for me.  I explained the thoughts going threw my head and she mentioned she totally understood.  She shimmied me into my dress and got me some cups (having them sewn in) to stick in it along with the bra then she stood behind me and pulled the dress as tight as she wherever the clamps didn’t seem to be tight enough.

I looked in the mirror, and fell in love with my dress.  The simple beading, side gathering, the neckline, the soft taffeta, the beautiful color.  The consultant hanging out with me and really working with me to see what the alterations will do was the clincher.

So after purchasing in and fretting over it for five months, I had ‘the moment’ :).

Ack sry I wrote a book!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ros04:  Well what I would do, if they have mirrors in the dressing room, I would bring a bunch of people with me and have them nonchalantly take cell phone pictures. Then in the dressing room ask if you can just have a minute to assess the dress and how you feel without anyone around judging and take a couple pictures with your phone, silence it though. Yes it is sneaky, but as brides we should be able to see how we look in the dress if we want!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had to buy a second dress still didnt get that feeling because I am so small and all samples are way too big but when it finally fit me I had that moment!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I hate when stores don’t allow pictures! I found a few I liked at one store but by the end of the day (and multiple dresses later) I couldn’t remember the details of the ones I liked. I need to be able to pore through the pictures for hours later to actually make a decision and get other opinions from family and friends. 

I also didn’t have that crying, jump up and down screaming moment (yet) but I’m not a very emotional person so I don’t really expect to – I guess it also depends on your personality.

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