Post # 1
I’m having a serious case of the bridal blues 🙁
Trying to plan a wedding for around $10,000 in Nashville, TN – freaking out because we want nice things, but we want it to be affordable… knowing that I’m spending $10,000 is killing me, though 🙁
My fiance is so level-headed and worry-free, but I feel like that’s almost a downside – here I am unable to sleep and he’s sleeping peacefully beside me while the light is on and I’m typing away furiously.
Anybody else just feel anxiety about wedding planning, particularly at nighttime? I feel like it’s worse right now because I can’t call anybody and Fiance is asleep. Even when he’s awake, I get irritated because he plays music or something while I’m trying to go over the budget one more time or process information about a DJ – and I hate getting irritated over small things like that and hurting his feelings. 🙁
I just can’t stop thinking about everything – the benefits of going with this or that, the cost-effectiveness/ value of ordering bulk flowers from Sam’s Club or doing DIY pew bows (which my Future Mother-In-Law protested loudly against, but my own mother thinks is the smartest idea), and what-ifs like “what if my parents don’t come through with money” or “what if the Future In-Laws are making all these financial promises they can’t keep, then we get stuck with bills we can’t afford….”
I just need some advice about turning off my mind, or to know I’m not alone. I hate this 🙁
Post # 3
I know just how you feel. My Fiance justs lays down, and is asleep before his head hits the pillow :-/
What I do to help my mind get turned off is read. I go potty first, then lay down and snuggle in the covers, then read until I can’t keep my eyes open. I also put the alarm clark face down, so I can’t see the time. If I see the time, for some reason, it makes me even more anxious.
Post # 4
@noritake22: that’s a good idea… knowing me, I’ll pick up a fascinating work like “Wedding Guidelines – St. Ann’s Catholic Church,” then get up to google something “really quickly” and freak myself out more. Seriously, it’s getting ridiculous.
Also, Fiance just rolled over and said “sorry, pumpkin,” then went back to sleep. It’s comforting to know that he at least knows that I’m still awake because I’m anxious. Stupid wedding planning. 🙁
Post # 5
@mandi.pitt: lol @ your Fiance 🙂
If you have your laptop in your bedroom, I highly recommend that you try to restrict your use to a different room. I have a mini that I was taking to bed for awhile, and even if I put it aside, it still haunted me. I now keep it in a different room and won’t allow myself to have any computer in the bedroom. It is a hard habit to break, but if you read instead, you should get used to it, and it should help.
Post # 6
@noritake22: I like the idea of hiding the laptop. I’m in grad school as well, so there are a ton of other things I could be doing and obsessing about, but the wedding planning has me in a stranglehold – I bought Eat, Pray, Love a couple weeks back. I should start reading it before bed.
Post # 7
Give yourself a curfew for sure. Get into a bed time routine that is more healthy and comforting to you. Night time does strange things to us humans. Everything seems more hopeless, lonely and sad at night. We get cranky more easily, etc. Rest your body, mind and soul. Awake and journal, have some tea or coffee. You’ll see the world anew, and all those numbers you’re crunching, and find solutions more readily. Hang in there.