(Closed) Can’t take this living situation anymore!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

ok i got to the 3rd paragraph and sweetie all i can say is GET OUT lol

i would be going nuts i can’t believe you haven’t had it out with that spoiled brat yet or the mother.  why doesn’t your Fiance get involved?

anyway yea you guys need to come up with an evacuation plan immediately. it’s the only answer.

oh and thank you for making me realize that my situation isn’t nearly as bad.  my mom’s been living with us for a couple of months because she recently moved back to this state from another state so she’s staying with us while she looks for a place to live.  she already has a job and is looking at apartments so it’s looking good.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

wow thats horrendous!

Post # 5
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

UGH! I am not happy with our living situation right now, either, and it is causing us to fight a lot. Are you going to live with them until your wedding or until you get your house? If it’s a matter of waiting until the house is ready/you find one…you just have to wait. But if you are waiting until your wedding, it looks like it is a year away and you are going to go to blows before then. Can you find an apartment that does month to month leasing?

I suggest getting a mini fridge. When Fiance and I lived with his mother before we got our apartment, we got a fridge. That way we were not cluttering up her fridge, and that way we could have a little bit of freedom as far as storing our own things. You can get mini fridges for fairly cheap, and they are handy for later in life. We still use ours even though we have a kitchen with a big fridge!

You need to talk to her about the laundry. Stop folding her stuff for her. If you find it mildewing in the washer, bring her down, make her smell it, and then start putting it on the floor. Seriously. It might start a fight, but it sounds like she is being a brat b/c you are in her ‘castle’. If you think that will start too much of a fight, tell her mom about it. That’s gross. I don’t put up with that crap in our current situation…I put stuff on the floor if it’s in the laundry for more than 2 days with no attention. I put it on the floor to give whoever left it there the hint that it’s been too long and now others need to use the washer. No matter what you do, STOP FOLDING HER STUFF.

I hate communial living. People need to not be stupid. This girl needs to grow up. I hope you get outta there soon before you go crazy. UGH I’m annoyed FOR you!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Screw her. Stop picking up after her!  I know you cant stand a cluttered bathroom, but stop.  Let her deal with it.  Dont pick up after her, dont fold anything she leaves out.  And yes, get a mini fridge.  Check craigslist for a free one?   How old is this girl?!?  God she has a rude awakening when she gets out of the house.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

*hugs*

We live with my in-laws, too. Thankfully we don’t have that kind of  Future Sister-In-Law, but I think that it’s hard in any context because a couple wants to set its own boundaries and establish its own household, but it’s trying to do so within an existing one. I feel like I’m the only one who cleans around here, and since we don’t pay rent, if they ever ask for help, of course I do it. But they’re not good about asking in advance, so I’ll get a text message from SIL asking if I can give her a ride somewhere… right now. It’s so frustrating. In my case, they’re all good people, but I just can’t live with them anymore. Except our moving prospects are not as promising as yours. Just focus on the good — you’re getting a house very soon! Good luck with it. And just remember that it’s only temporary. And think of all the awesome house stuff you can buy with the money you’re saving on rent!

Edit — agree with PP. Stop doing that stuff. If they are OK living in a house that’s not picked up or not cleaned, let them. I hate it, too, but I stopped. I don’t like it, but it wasn’t worth the hour I spent doing dishes everyday because no one can be bothered to rinse a bowl out on their own. You end up feeling used and annoyed. It’s easier to live in a gross house but feel better with each other!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

if you do have to stay for any length of time get a mini fridge and put a lock on it. if nothing else you can use the mini fridge in the garage when you get your own place. i had one by my bed for the longest time because i get thirsty at night and when i turned 21 it was a beer fridge, then i had a baby and it stored bottles and water and snacks lol. think of it as an investment!

Post # 9
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Newbee

I know EXACTLY what your going thru. Thankfully we have a seperate entrance and living quaters (we live in the basement of a private family home). My SIL is a complete fucking bitch. She also walks around here like she’s a queeen bee. The has three children that she practically neglects and leaves the oldest who is 15 to tend to the other two. But to hear her tell it, she’s the mother of the year. I despise this woman. She’s the type to exactly like your SIL make a mess and leave it. In my case she actually likes to claim that she’s “so neat” and will actually to blame the mess on us. I want to slap her so badly, I dream about it every day.  Before she came here things were perfect, his mom is a dream and his brother is awesome. But his sister is simply a cancer. I could go on and on about her. Urggh… But OP i wish you patience cause sadly until you leave your gonna have to continue to deal with her crazy ass.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Why can’t the two of you rent a cheap apartment?  Maybe you are living there to save money, but you may need to move out to save your sanity!

Post # 12
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t know how you haven’t knocked that b*tch out yet. You are a patient person.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Pinksapphire: A mini fridge is a good idea.  They don’t cost a ton, but since you’re looking to save money, try Craigslist.  Good luck to you!

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