(Closed) Can't tell if I'm insensitive or FI's overcautious or both. Please help?

posted 4 years ago in Pets
  • poll: What do you think?
    You're being insensitive and should stay home : (4 votes)
    5 %
    He's overly cautious and y'all should go : (48 votes)
    63 %
    A bit of both, but I think you should still go : (20 votes)
    26 %
    A bit of both, but I think you should stay home : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Um, go on the trip. If the vet says come back in two weeks, why does it matter if you are at home or on a trip? You can’t do anything until then anyway.

    Post # 3
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    HonoraryNerd:  Ummm, if my dog’s behavior had changed slightly, and the vet said to monitor for a few weeks because they do not feel it is anything ‘serious’ at the moment, you bet your butt I would be traveling to see my friends!!!  I would leave my pet with the sitter, apologize for the drool (after, of course, validating with them beforehand they are OK with still watching/monitoring my pet), have them call me if something changes, and enjoy my mini-vk.

    And, I say all this as an overly ‘in love with my pet’ person – as in, they are my child, and I treat them as such.  Case and point, if my human baby started getting more ‘snotty’ in the nose, and the doctor said it is probably just a cold, but if his/her symptoms worsen, or do not stop in a few weeks, then I would again call the sitter to ensure they are Ok with taking a baby with a maybe cold, and still leave town, giving them ‘free reign’ to call me anytime!

    Furthermore, just to add another side to your equation with your Fiance, whenever you let anyone watch over your anything, there is always a chance that something will go ‘wrong’ – whether it be an onset to a sickness, or a fluke accident.  MOST sitters acknowledge this fact, and know that they MAY have to take your pet/child, what have you, to a vet or a doctor in the event these things DO happen.  Maybe I am being to lax in my theories.  But, in 48 hours of being gone, I would assume things will be JUST FINE!!

    Post # 4
    1603 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’d ask a close friend to stop by the house once or twice during the weekend and check on the cat, but I’d still go.

    Post # 5
    2598 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    HonoraryNerd:  I’m on your side and I don’t think you’re being heartless.  If you trust the person caring for your pets while you’re away, you can ask them to keep a close eye on the cat and alert you or rush him to the vet on your behalf if anything changes.  If the vet wasn’t concerned enough to do further testing right now, there doesn’t seem to be any need to cancel your trip.

    Now, I will say that was my objective opinion.  If it were my pet,  I’m not sure if I could enjoy myself on a trip if I were worried he might be in danger or sick.  However, if it were unlikely the condition would change and there didn’t appear to be any immediate danger, I think I would still go. 

    Post # 6
    4031 posts
    Honey bee

    HonoraryNerd:  Um no need for the ding on people who happen to care about animals more than you do (i.e. People like your FI). Some people love and care for animals more than others.

    FWIW, I do really care about my pets and worry about them, but I would go on the trip still. There is nothing that can be done per the vets advice, but I would ask a friend to check on the cat once a day to make sure it’s ok. 

    Post # 7
    1557 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    HonoraryNerd:  In my opinion, you’re not being insensitive. You took the cat to the vet, the vet gave you the okay, monitor and report back in 2 weeks. You’re only going for 2 days. You have already arranged care, so they can monitor while you’re gone, and have the authority to bring in your cat if the situation gets worse. 

    I don’t see changing your plans because of this.

    Post # 8
    2389 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    OMG.  Go on the trip.  One of my biggest pet peeves is people who put animals above other people.  THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH THE CAT.  If friends cancelled on me because their cat was drooling, those would be ex-friends.  Mainly because I’d think they’d lost their bloody minds.

    Post # 9
    8879 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013


    HonoraryNerd:  when i was 18 months, i had the croop. my mom’s brother called her, his girlfriend just broke up with him and he had an open seat for a hawaii trip.  my mom called my grandmother (my dad travelled for work) said “take care of your sick grandchild, i’m going to hawaii.”  well it probably wasn’t worded like that, but my mom did go to hawaii leaving a sick baby.

    so that being said, and growing up with dogs which i think need more attention then cats.  i would go on the vacation.  you said it is just the weekend.  not even an entire week.  if the vet said ok, your cat will be fine for a few days.  nothing really you can do anyway.

    Post # 10
    8684 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Is someone going to be staying with the cat while you’re gone?

    Post # 11
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Just make sure the person watching your pets has the contact info for your vet or an emergency clinic if there are any concerns after your vet is closed.  Just in case things change and he needs to be checked out while you are away.

    Post # 12
    3076 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Hmm. I’m overly sensitive so I thought it’d be voting that you were insensitive but nope. I agree nothing can be done and it doesn’t sound serious though I’m not a cat person. The only thing is be concerned about is where the cat would stay or who would be monitoring him but no reason to ditch the trip plans so hastily. 

    Post # 13
    2375 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Drooling is often a sign of dental disease, and it can be extremely painful. I’d suggest bringing the cat in for a checkup and having them take a look at his teeth. He might need a dental and extractions, which can be scheduled after the trip. Make sure the let sitter has your vet’s contact info in case anything changes.

    Post # 14
    963 posts
    Busy bee

    i was kind of on the fence. I can understand how both of you are feeling. I agree with MariContrary – ask the vet to look at his teeth. Maybe bring him to a different vet for a second opinion. 

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