Post # 1
Ok bees…finally after weeks () of researching for the ring, finding out my ring size (—we are both a types, extremely detail-oriented which can be frustrating at times—) >>>> We are so close to ordering the ring…Yesterday I came from work and he was just about to order the ring (it was in his basket), he wasn’t really hiding it (I am not a huge fan of surprises so it’s all good) but then we started looking at rings again and he said – you still haven’t decided, maybe you should sleep on it (WHAT), take a week to decide… (it took me a while to just choose the shape lol….then the setting,….but I told him I don’t want to wait, I like the styles we picked…I really want a Christmas proposal – I am not originally from the country where they celebrate catholic Christmas so for me this proposal would be special) but now I know it’s not gonna happen…because Christmas is right around the corner…If he orders it this weekend, it will only be shipped middle of December.. There are other majour reasons why it would be ideal if it happened in December (but he might not see it that way)
Sorry I know I should be happy and thinking positive but I’ve been waiting for this moment for so long and now I can’t think of anything else…I tried taking my mind of things – nothing works…And I don’t really want to share it with anyone in my circle…kind of early.
How are you coping with the wait?
Post # 2
It took us forever to find a ring design we liked. (Partly because of him, partly because of me). When we finally found one, he made me wait a week before ordering it, to make sure I didn’t change my mind again. Hahaha. It’s a lot of money!
Post # 3
Well, it sounds like he just wants to make sure he gets you what you want. And it sounds like you kind of did it to yourself – why did the two of you start looking at rings again when he had one in his cart.
Once you make a decision, be certain and stop looking. There’s no point continuing to hunt for something better or hunting to make sure what you picked is really really what you want. He obviously wants absolute certainty and “window shopping” doesn’t convey absolute certainty. So stop looking and also use your words to tell him what you want. He can’t read your mind that you really really want a December engagement.
Post # 4
BuzzedBumblingBee : Thank you for sharing, it made me feel better!
Post # 5
annabananabee : He 100% knows I want a December engagement, he just doesn’t understand why it has to be December if we are both not religious etc.
I happened to come home at the wrong time!! Otherwise I am sure he would have ordered it, He already put in all of his details…
Post # 6
Honestly it sounds to me like he might be trying to fake you out and make it seem like he’s delaying ordering so you won’t expect it when the ring actually comes/he can have at least one element of surprise 🙂
I would go along with it, and give him a bit of time – a week or so to think about it and then come back to him to tell him you’re sure about it. At the very worst, it just means your proposal might happen a bit later than anticipated but it doesn’t sound like cold feet to me at all. Let him worry about the proposal – whether it’s at christmas or not, I’m sure he’ll make it special.
Post # 7
I am religious and for the life of me I can’t see what being religious and December engagements have in common. You said that you have other reasons, but he still thinks it is religious. Maybe you need to outline your reasons. Also, if it must be December, you have already agreed to get married, announce it in December without the ring.
Post # 8
beginningless : He is not the type of guy to do that but I know what you mean:)))
Yes, I hope it will be resolved soon!!