Can't think of anything else!!

posted 2 weeks ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is he right about giving me some more time to decide on the style?
    Yes : (6 votes)
    75 %
    No, he has cold feet, just dragging his feet : (2 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    It took us forever to find a ring design we liked. (Partly because of him, partly because of me). When we finally found one, he made me wait a week before ordering it, to make sure I didn’t change my mind again. Hahaha. It’s a lot of money!

    Post # 3
    Member
    4608 posts
    Honey bee

    Well, it sounds like he just wants to make sure he gets you what you want.  And it sounds like you kind of did it to yourself – why did the two of you start looking at rings again when he had one in his cart.

    Once you make a decision, be certain and stop looking.  There’s no point continuing to hunt for something better or hunting to make sure what you picked is really really what you want.  He obviously wants absolute certainty and “window shopping” doesn’t convey absolute certainty.  So stop looking and also use your words to tell him what you want.  He can’t read your mind that you really really want a December engagement.

    Post # 6
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Honestly it sounds to me like he might be trying to fake you out and make it seem like he’s delaying ordering so you won’t expect it when the ring actually comes/he can have at least one element of surprise 🙂 

    I would go along with it, and give him a bit of time – a week or so to think about it and then come back to him to tell him you’re sure about it. At the very worst, it just means your proposal might happen a bit later than anticipated but it doesn’t sound like cold feet to me at all. Let him worry about the proposal – whether it’s at christmas or not, I’m sure he’ll make it special. 

    Post # 7
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    I am religious and for the life of me I can’t see what being religious and December engagements have in common. You said that you have other reasons, but he still thinks it is religious. Maybe you need to outline your reasons. Also, if it must be December, you have already agreed to get married, announce it in December without the ring. 

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