(Closed) Can’t we just let it go?

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

It’s hard to let it go when people continue to make new threads talking about it….

Plus, as “unpleasant” as these threads sometimes get, they point out kinks in the system that bother people, or that hadn’t been brought to light before. As the forum evolves, so do the rules, users and experience. So no, I’m glad people don’t just let it go.

Post # 5
Member
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have no problem ignoring the mean posts. I think a lot of the posts that are started having to do with drama an made to stir stuff up are just trolls and I ignor them. But when the posts are left up and not closed or deleted when they violate the TOS and there are double standards for posts/posters…that is what I have issues with and when I choose to speak up. For me the poster was not the issue it was how it was NOT being handled that was the issue.

Post # 6
Member
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

In a word, no. Clearly the board is going through PMS. This will all die down eventually. Until then, let’s just focus on the good stuff here, and not the dramaz threads.

Post # 7
Member
3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@luvmyDwight: I get your point, but if it makes you feel any better, the Bee that restarted the year-old post did apologize for doing so in that thread as she didn’t see that it had started so long ago. 

Post # 8
Member
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@luvmyDwight: Not everyone comes here looking for the same experience. Some people want to talk about dresses and don’t really care too much about day to day operation. Other people have invested a lot of time into this board and have made friends, planned events, recapped their weddings, went on to have babies and buy homes. When the ugly stuff is brought to the surface those who feel invested talk about it and often see change as a result. So just because some people find is annoying or just want to let it go doesn’t mean everyone feels that way. Users make the site, if there is repeated behavior that is making people uncomfortable, it will and should be addressed.

Post # 9
Member
3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@pinkb: agreed, that is the real issue.

OP, this thread certainly doesn’t seem to jive with your “let it go” mentality since it just prolongs the conversation. if you don’t like the conversation happening,  you don’t have to be a part of it. but, as long as it’s not against TOS, we can keep talking about it. simply stated, i say leave the moderation to the mods – these kinds of “CAN’T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?!??!” posts never turn out well.

Post # 12
Member
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@luvmyDwight: As a community we need to discuss these things. Sweeping them under the rug doesn’t do anyone any good. In a week, a month, a year down the road there is going to be something else that causes the same amount of outrage. If we can come together as a community and agree on a way to deal with these issues now (i.e. by putting some better rules in place), maybe we can avoid the future ones. 

Post # 13
Member
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think what OP is saying is next time someone posts something nasty, don’t draw it out!  Period.  Just flag it and move on to another thread.  Don’t feed into it.  You see over 100 ppl adding to a post that needs to be left alone.

Post # 15
Member
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@lovekiss: “Clearly the board is going through PMS.” Love it.

Post # 16
Member
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KatyElle: My thoughts exactly.

I logged on and saw about four posts about the same thing.  Sorry, it’s now overplayed.  

Please, do let out your frustrations and opinions, but why can’t we all stick to one thread?  Is it to be seen/read only then hope for comments?

I’m not trying to be mean.  Just my thoughts.

ETA: This is not just towards today’s situation.  I’ve seen it happen plenty of times when certain members were banned.

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