Post # 1
This was the suggestion made by my Future Father-In-Law when Fiance and I explained that we would be postponing our wedding plans indefinitely.
Honestly, I am so tired of everyone putting in their two cents on what we should/shouldn’t/can/can’t do for our wedding.
Which is why we are “postponing” the plans, while secretly putting together a new plan of an elopement.
ETA: My exact response to this ridiculous question was “well, that sounds like a really terrible idea”. Oops. Snark got the better of me!
Post # 3
Good thinking. Do not start your marriage off by putting yourself in a painful spot financially just for one day.
Post # 4
ugh why can’t people understand that they need to let the bride and groom decide what they want to do for their wedding… and keep their opinion out of it! and I agree smart decision. No need ot go into debt at the start of your marraige
Post # 5
I shall put myself into debt for no one!
Post # 6
Good girl! No one should ever take a loan or max out a credit card for their wedding. Horrible!
Post # 7
Good for you! That is definately the best way to go. Debt it so not worth it! And good luck with the elopement – it’s clear why that’s the best option for you!
Post # 8
I’d ask them “Why don’t we use YOUR line of credit”?
Post # 9
It’s a good thing to know that your Fiance did NOT get his spending habits from his father at least. I can’t believe that people’s first response for everything is credit. If you can’t pay for it now what makes you think you’ll be able to in the future?! Sheesh!
Post # 10
@Ill Be Mrs B: LIKE.
OP, one year later I still wish we would have eloped. More power to ya!
Post # 12
flyawaycricket: —> THIS
And don’t even get me started on the fact that “some people” (usually those who are older and well established) seem to think that EVERYONE has a PLATINUM Credit Card with no spending limits… or a Line of Credit.
Not everyone does !!
Some folks don’t even have regular credit cards…
Some of us have gone thru life (or a period of our life) when it has been pay cheque to pay cheque… and not a thin dime to spare…
There is an element of “eliteness” when folks make such comments.
As a single mom for awhile… it used to really tick me off when EVERYONE around me assumed that everything was AS IT WAS for me financially after the break-up of my marriage. Sure I got to live in our house… but that was because I was awaiting a court order for support.
Some people have NO CLUE that there are other situations in life that don’t look like their own (career situations – illnesses – other personal or family tragedies etc) … and that “reality” can creep up on you quietly… and snatch it all away in one fell swoop !!
*Steps off soapbox* (end of rant)