- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I have to say that we’ve been lucky…everything for the wedding has fallen nicely into place. Except we don’t have our clergy person yet.
Though I was raised Jewish and still strongly believe lots of it, I haven’t gotten so involved in the Jewish community out here, so I don’t really know any rabbis or clergy people.
Our initial thought was to have the rabbi of my parent’s synagogue tell us of some of his friends out here. (My fiance is in the process of converting and is working with the rabbi at my parent’s synagogue–we both really like him because he’s pretty liberal in a lot of his beliefs which really lines up with a lot of what we believe).
Though today while at work, it came up in conversation that the cantor of the syngogue that my supervisor belongs to is great. (Or so she says…I have no reason to doubt her, and knowing the kind of person she is, I think we’d have similar defintions of “great”). But, now I’m stuck on the idea of not having a rabbi marry us. I don’t know if it REALLY matters, and I know that a rabbi doesn’t have to be the one to conduct a Jewish wedding. But, I don’t know…it somehow feels less authentic to not have a rabbi, or it just feels “fake.” I don’t know…
I haven’t talked to my fiance about this yet, but I just wanted to hear I guess from other people about experiences of having a cantor versus a rabbi…is there much of a difference? Am I being silly with those whole “fake” idea? Any thoughts are so so greatly appreciated!