Car accident after engagement pictures (vent)

posted 8 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee

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@fiestabee:  sorry to hear that, car accidents are scary AF. I’ve been in a couple that could have ended up much worse, and my father died in a car accident so I’m incredibly paranoid about being in cars. I think you should try and focus on the positive aspects- you had an amazing photo shoot with the person you love, you guys didn’t get injured, you were able to still stay at the hotel and get your take out. That still sounds like a great night! Again, I know car accidents are scary and iM not trying to diminish your feelings but look at all of the great things you can take away from the night. 

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Busy bee

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@fiestabee:  I totally get it! Accidents are definitely a reality check, take care and don’t let your anxiety get the best of you!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Your body and mind are processing the shock.  It’s going to take a while for all that to settle down.  Give yourself some time and space to recover and keep focussing on the good memories of the photoshoot.  In time, those will take over from the bad memory of the accident.  Sending hugs xxx

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Oh bee, I’m sorry! The anxiety is intense, I’ve been there. The only car accident I’ve been in was with someone who pulled out in front of me. I hit the passenger side door, which ended up almost in the drivers seat. The driver’s little sister was supposed to be in the car at that moment, except she had a cold that day and didn’t go to dance practice. That still gives me terrible chills to think about.

The anxiety will die down with time, though, especially the more you can focus on your engagement photos and what a good day it was. Thank goodness you and your fiancé are both okay! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

You experienced a traumatic event – your anxiety sounds completely normal to me! I had a car sideswipe me recently (I was on FOOT and it came from the other side of the road) and it was really upsetting. I was fine; just a couple bruises, a scrape on my jacket, and my hand was super bruised for a week, but I have really disliked talking about the actual incident and yet kept going over it again and again in my mind. Was it on purpose? Were they texting? Why didn’t they stop? Should I have elected to press charges? I wish I had gotten a better look at the make and model so badly, but I was just so surprised. Mentally I was FINE when it happened and then cried multiple times the rest of the evening and just felt SO incredibly upset. You are in a full collision – that is trauma. It’s SO fresh for you, too!

For me, I was super on edge the next day but as it was maybe 2+ weeks ago now, I’m much better! A bit turned off from walking (no sidewalks in this neighborhood) but luckily we move in a few weeks. It will slowly lessen, and it’s not a bad idea to consider some counseling to help you process things!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

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@fiestabee:  It was bizarre and definitely upsetting. It was really just the side of the car – I was never knocked off my feet or anything. My hand was really bruised from the side mirror, and my forearm from where it also knocked it, and my thigh had a bit of a bruise from the side of the car but that’s all! But once I was on the phone with dispatch, things started to sink in and I began to get emotional and overwhelmed. 

Much smaller than what happened to you, but enough to have been replaying it over and over with lots of what ifs and feeling vaguely anxious and upset for a bit. If it’s any reassurrance – I feel totally fine now! Bruises gone, not anxious, decently over it. I don’t bring it up in conversation and never bothered telling my friends (no interest in telling the whole thing all over again), and yes I do sometimes think about it, but I don’t get upset, it doesn’t keep me up at night, and I’m finding myself more able to be like “it happened like it happened, no sense in wondering too much, it’s in the past, and I’m fine”. Eventually you will get there too!!

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