(Closed) Card Arrived Open…how to handle?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would send her a thank you for the card. Maybe she’ll pick up the hint that you only got a card. 

Post # 4
11657 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly, I would have your sister call (not you) and be honest – ‘I received your card for VtoM today unfortunately it arrived open, thankfully the card wasn’t damaged – I’ll be sure to bring it to the shower’.  That should trigger her if there was something in there. 

My only concern about the thank you note is that she might think you’re being ‘rude’ by not directly thanking her for her gift.

Post # 5
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If there was a check in there, she may be able to cancel it if it’s caught quickly.
I would let her know that the card arrived opened, and you were just concerned about your mail being treated like that, and thought she has a right to know.

Something like that (sorry, not very eloquent)

Post # 6
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsGinkgo:  I agree – have your sister call and mention that it was sliced open when she received it. I would want to know if I was the sender of the card.

Post # 7
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@VtoM:  I would call and tell her the card was opened, and thank her for the response 🙂

Post # 8
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think there is anything wrong with your mom or sister calling the lady and explaining that the card arrived open and it concerned them if there was something inside.  I would think the person would be happy that you were concerned rather than annoyed that you called on the off chance they only sent a card.

Post # 10
10389 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I would have your sister call and tell her the card came open at the top and you wanted to be sure there was nothing inside that she needed to cancel for her own security. 

Post # 11
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Agreed that your sister should call and let her know the card arrived opened.

Post # 12
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@megan52088:  +1

@weddingmaven:  +1


she needs to know that it came opened in case there was a check in there. just have your sister or your mom call and explain what happened.

Post # 13
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013



^ this. Because if there WAS a check in they will want to cancel it and should do that ASAP. 

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