Post # 1
So I have a logistical question for you regarding where your guests will be placing their gifts for you. I have seen adorable posts on here about using bird cages, decorative baskets, etc. to store cards. I found the perfect fall-themed basket for our cards on clearance at Crate and Barrel outlet, and excitedly showed my sister, also my Maid/Matron of Honor. She thought it was great, but said that at all the weddings she had recently been to, cards had been placed in a locked box. What are you doing to store your cards? I guess I’m a total Polyanna, but the thought of theft at my wedding hadn’t even crossed my mind! Thoughts???
Post # 3
I don’t know if I’d go with a locked box. That sounds kind of extreme, but it depends on where your location is. If it’s just at a hotel, any joe could come in. Literally if someone stole ours, it’d be one of our guests because of where we are located!
Post # 4
I think the lockbox is a little extreme also and brings up memories of SNL and Al Gore.
You should have a decoy lock box too. http://www.nbc.com/Saturday_Night_Live/politics/candidates/gore.shtml
Post # 5
A locked box sounds a little extreme to me as well, I’ve never really seen one at a wedding. I do find that people use boxes most often. The reason for this is that you don’t want people to know how many envelopes you have and you definitely don’t want others to sift through them either. Not that your guests can not be trusted but it’s just a precaution because it has happened to brides in the past.
Especially for asian weddings where the red envelopes can be small, fall out of hands easily and usually carry a very large sum of cash …. you want your guests to feel it is safe to leave it there.
Just a thought!
Post # 6
Honestly, I’d say it depends on the size of your wedding and the location (and how public it is). As someone already mentioned, if it’s somewhere where people could just wander in from outside and take things, it might be a better idea to have something more secure. But if you’re the only ones at the particular location and your wedding is small, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 7
I don’t *think* we will be doing a locked box. Most likely one of my brothers & one of his brothers will be at the table greeting so someone will always be there at all times. But I am worried about "someone" stealing it because like someone mention at asian weddings those envelopes usually contain a lot of cash. And not worried about guests but honestly you will have servers, vendors, bartenders. Who really knows. Know what I mean?
It’s better to err on the side of caution, for me at least.
Post # 8
We had a picture frame card box. It locked (which was important to me because there was a string of wedding thefts in the town I got married in just before the wedding). But honestly, I don’t think anyone even noticed that it locked (the lock was just underneath the lip on the lid). Everyone just commented on how cool the box was and we got to display some of our favorite engagement pics! I put our monogram card from the front of our invites in the top glass covered spot right next to the card slot – it was perfect for us!
A little peace of mind for me and the hubs! Plus, I was surprised at how much cash was actually in the cards (instead of a check). I’ll try to post pics of the box but if they don’t post, here is a link to them: http://mf580398.googlepages.com/
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Post # 9
MrsK2Be, where did you get that?? It’s really cute =)
Post # 10
I never thought of that, I feel that we would give the impression that we are expecting monetary gifts. But than again culture to cultures are different, I would love to get all money gifts!
Post # 11
I agree Carmen2009 — nobody does card boxes where I’m from/in my group, but I think they’re a great idea if you’re expecting a lot of envelopes!
Post # 12
We’re going to have a birdcage and one of my cousins will be at the table making sure everyone signs the guestbook etc. Once everyone has arrived, we’re going to have the envelopes put into the safe.
Somewhere in our family, there is someone with sticky fingers….during the last two family weddings and at a bridal shower people have noticed money, expensive makeup and small electronics like cameras. Nobody’s sure who it is so we’re going to take come precautions.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t have a locked box – it might give your guests the impression you think they are thieves! But you could definitely have a box with a small slit for cards. If someone tries to steal the cards it will be really obvious!