(Closed) Card Box a MUST?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I think it’s fine not to have one – the main reason to have one is that there is a possibility of envelopes falling off the gift table and getting lost, since they’re so small. If that’s not something you’re worried about, then skip it! No big deal! 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You don’t have to have anything you don’t want at your wedding; however, at least one guest will more than likely bring you a card. You can just have them set it on the gift table or you can have something available to put the card(s) in. We are actually hoping that no one brings us gifts, but we know someone will give us a card. A “gift” table to me is presumptuous, so I guess it is all just a matter of how you percieve things. If it was totally up to me and I knew no one was going to bring a gift or a card, I would not have the table at all.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There are all sorts of kinds of card boxes that are wicked cute like bird cages and cake boxes, its just more convenient for the guests to just drop their cards off so they dont have to worry about it for the rest of the night, some people will want to give you cash so they will put it in a card, they will feel more secure about the cash if they have a place they can put it in that they dont have to worry about for the rest of the night

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Honestly, not everyone brings gifts to the wedding anymore – most people send them. But there will probably be people who will actually bring gifts. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@pompom- of course guests will brlng either a gift or a card,I’ve never heard of a guest showing up at a wedding empty handed. Would you show up at a wedding empty handed?  We are having a card box but its $6, we are planning on going around to each table throughout the night to thank everyone for showing up and this is usually the time where people who ‘missed’ the card box will give you a card or gift, but I feel like its more appropriate that they just leave their card of gift at the gift table as soon as they walk into the reception so they can be care free for the rest of the night

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Not everyone will ship gifts to your home, especially older guests. There are people who will bring a card (not necessarily money either) and if you don’t have something to put them in, they will get lost and you won’t know who to send the proper thank you notes to.

@pompom, yes people bring gifts to the reception. In many areas and social circles, that is standard procedure. As far as how they get transported home, that job may be taken on by the parents or siblings.

A card box is not necessary but you do need a basket or something to put them in. Whatever you choose needs to be fairly obvious to guests so they know what it is for. As an example, some people would not know at all that a box designed to look like presents is strictly for cards, while others feel it is obvious and don’t understand how someone wouldn’t know that. Every group is different so you can’t assume anything.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Actually, I don’t remember seeing card boxes at most weddings I’ve been to – and in my geographic area it’s fairly customary to give a card w/ money at the wedding.  Normally we just hand the card to the bride or groom as they’re making the rounds during the reception.  I don’t think anyone would necessarily miss the box as long as they had a chance to hand you the card.  You may want to be extra sure to get around to all your tables during the party.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

last year i was designated card girl at my friends wedding. as she & her new hubby greeted and thanked her guests they would give her cards and she would quitely hand them to me and i put them in a white satin drawstring bag that i made for her and as they were leaving the venue i was able to hand them to her (with her passports & tickets) as they were off to europe the next day

 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If people dont bring gifts to a wedding then where will they send it to? My family is flying in from across the country and im sure they will bring a gift in person instead of mailing it, its just more convenient, and it will be fun for the bride and groom to gather all their blessings at the end of the night, go back to the hotel ( or wherever they will be spending the night as husband and wife) and open gifts, cards, etc together, its kind of like Christmas but not Christmas, haha, cant wait for our wedding!!!!!

PS.

I’ve heard that the ‘etiquitte’ for guests is that a guest has to cover for at least their meal, not trying to look greedy or expecting money or gifts, but everyone i’ve talked to has said the same thing, so having a gift table or box is actually mandatory for us to have, we will be drinking all night long and it will be just more convenient to gather up when we are heading out

Post # 15
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Honey bee

A guest covering their plate with a monetary gift is tradition, not etiquette. More people than not don’t agree with the logic behind it, thus they don’t partake in it. There is no way whatsoever for a guest to have any clue what the couple (or their parents) is paying for the meal and drinks. A gift is not mandatory and it should come from the heart based on what the guest is willing and able to give, nothing more nothing less.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@pompom. for the actual gifts her folks/siblings took them home for when they came back from their honeymoon,  there was maybe a dozen of them. 

her mother is chinese and her father is yugoslavian so there was ALOT of cash/cards gifted to the couple. plus the red envelopes the Chinese people use  – the couple asked people to write down a wish for the couple and put it in the envelopes but alot of her mums side of the family was putting a wish and cash in those as well as giving them a gift. the drawstring bag was very full and if youre going to do this i suggest you make a extra large size for those funny big sized cards some people buy – i make a big bag because i had their travel documents as well and it came in handy 

 

 

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