Post # 1
My mom and I have been debating this for about a week…
My mom got married in 1979. My mom thinks I should carry a bag around to tables to collect the cards that people are going to give us. I honestly, don’t want to do that. We are having a wedding of about 70 people. My wedding is a nature theme with trees, flowers, and birds. We were thinking of having a bird cage at the table with the guest book to collect the cards. I think this fits with the theme and allows people to do what they want without feeling obligated to hand it to me.
I will be walking around thanking everyone.
Post # 3
I would go with the birdcage. Tell you mom that you want to be able to focus on chattign with guests and dealing with all the last minute details as an excuse to get out of the bag.
Post # 4
Personally, I would feel like I was begging by walking to each table. Also, I would worry that those guests whom are having gifts other than cards (ex: sending it to your house) would feel left out and like they were being looked down apon by other guests.
Post # 5
I think going around with a bag is a little presumptuous…
However, I think this stems from something my mom talked about too. She and my dad went around with a little basket of wrapped up fruit cakes that were handed out to chat with each guest, and then they usually were handed the card at that time, and would just put them back in the basket that they were using to carry the cake.
I think that comes off a little less harsh, since of course the basket is for carrying, and one would only be pleasantly surprised if someone put a card BACK in the basket.
Not saying you should necessarily do it… I think the bird cage sounds lovely.
Post # 6
Honestly, I think the bag idea is a bit weird. The birdcage sounds great! SO and I are going to make a cute mailbox for cards at our wedding.
Post # 7
Deffo vote for the bridcage, not least because that is what I’m doing! Would feel like I was begging going around with a bag for the cards. This way it’s one less thing to worry about on the day- you’ll have enough on your plate without worrying about this!
Post # 8
Hm, never heard of the bag before. It may have been a trend when your mom got married… but I think most people put their cards/presents at the present table and leave it at that. If they happen to give you a card while you’re going from table to table, it would seem easier just to carry the card around, not the bag.
Post # 9
My mom said the same thing at my last wedding. In some areas it’s still traditional for the bride to have a money bag. Seriously… I’m pretty sure if you Google it you’ll get some hits.
it’s usually the same purse she uses at the dollar dance.
If your mom hasn’t gone to weddings in a while or outside of your immediate family if they do the same, she probably doesn’t realize that isn’t the norm any more.
I think more people give gifts now, no matter the tradition or area because they can be bought on sale or with coupons, vs cash that’s still just cash 🙂
Just try to explain you feel awkward doing that and don’t want to make your GUESTS feel awkward if you approach them expecting a card and they dont have one to give.
Most guests will ask where cards go that bring them, and having a birdcage on the gift table is an easy way to direct them.