Post # 1
So, this is not a crisis I know, but I wondered if any of you amazing people have any ideas for me. Someone I love and would never want to offend gave Fiance and I a card box for an engagement gift (I really don’t like it). Eek – it doesn’t fit my style or what I have in mind for reception, etc. It’s sort of sitting there being an eyesore. So what seems like the best plan?
Just put it out anyway to respect the gift-giver’s generosity to us?
Modify? (am worried that that would seem offensive if I do)
Fiance suggests saying something bad happened to box; not sure I can pull that off.
Yes it’s kind of silly I know, but if you feel like helping out I’d appreciate it. Thanks!
Post # 3
do you have a dog? say the dog pee’d on it 🙂
Post # 4
Is it a card box meant to be used at a wedding? I guess I’m having a hard time imagining why someone would give that as an engagement gift!
I can understand why you might not want to put it out at the wedding but is there another use for it? Maybe you could leave it up and put the programs in it at the ceremony?
Post # 5
First, I think that giving someone a card box as an engagement present is really weird…Did they tell you it was a card box, or did they make it with the words “Cards” anywhere?
I guess it depends on who gave it to you – you would need to respond differently. Like if it was someone close to me that I can be real with, I would tell them thanks, but we had other ideas for a card box. If they aren’t too close, then I would also tell them thanks, and say something like, “Oh, I think this would be great as a blankety-blank instead!”
Post # 6
If they specifically told you it was a card box to use at your wedding, you should use it. It would be really hurtful to the person if you didn’t.
I have a similar situation with an item my Maid/Matron of Honor gave us to use, and I wasn’t going to use it because it didn’t match, but after reading your post and seeing it from a different perspective I’m definately going to use it.
It’s better to use it and it look a little weird than to ruin a relationship. Besides, in reality you’ll probably be the only one who even notices that it doesn’t fit in. I’ve been to a lot of weddings, and I can’t remember the card box/holder from any of them!
Post # 7
Am now wishing I had a dog! LOL, and thanks.
Post # 8
I would just use it. It will just be sitting on the gift table anyway, and the gifts aren’t going to all match your reception either. After a couple gifts are put on the table, you won’t notice the card box.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the responses; it’s kind of a silly post, but I appreciate the perspectives. Yes, it was a card box to use for reception, and I do think it’s a bit weird for someone to do that, but the intention was good. I think I agree most with EmJae (thanks!); it doesn’t cost me much to put it out, it’s not that big a piece of the puzzle, and it’ll make gift-giver happy. But I do sorta still wish I had a dog…
Post # 10
Can you cover part/most of the box with a big sign or ribbon or something? I would probably use it, but try to cover up the parts you dislike the most.
A pic might help so we could see what you’re working with. 😉