Post # 1
My cousin just went through a tough breakup – she was really digging this guy and he dumped her. She has been to counseling and now she is on an anti-depressant. It breaks my heart – she is one of my bridesmaids as well. She is normally a very chipper gal and she is the sweetest person, but manages to get stuck in relationships that don’t end well (she was dumped on her birthday a couple years ago as well).
My mom and I are going to put together a little care package for her and go get the things for it tomorrow. What would you all suggest we include? I was thinking comforting things like hot cocoa, a blanket, etc. I read somewhere that including things that make past, happier memories resurface are a bad idea because it may backfire and make them more sad.
If you were depressed and were given a care package, what would you hope to find inside and what would cheer you up, even if only short-term?
Post # 3
Nail polish, a magazine (nothing with love stuff in it though – thinking more like Cat Fancy or something on whatever she’s into), nice tea, a small amount of high end chocolate, body cream. You’re a nice friend!
Post # 4
Don’t forget a good book! Or movie. Or something to keep her mind of her situation.
Post # 5
said, definitely a good book, movie, or maybe a even a season of a TV series. I had a really rough breakup in my early twenties and watching seasons of Friends and Sex and the City was the only thing that would keep my mind off of it at night before trying to fall asleep!
Post # 6
I second the idea of nail polish or maybe some other fun nail art stuff or even a manicure set. Chocolate is also good. Maybe some cute fuzzy socks?
Post # 7
what a sweet and thoughtful gift! I would include:
-a book or two. If she has an Amazon wish list, you’re golden. Otherwise, go with something you’d think she would like
-some chocolate or candy. my partner would be so happy with Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups while I want some higher end chocolate! While it’s not high end, I can’t avoid eating Lindt truffles
-a sweet card
-maybe some comfy pj pants?
Post # 8
I like the above ideas, and might add an iTunes gift card for some new music, or a small gift card or groupon to a fun local place, maybe a salon or a coffee shop to encourage her to venture out when she feels better.
Post # 9
+1! A marathon of Big Bang Theory can take my mind off of pretty much anything!
I love the iTunes card. It sounds silly but even something as simple as revamping your ipod can give you a fresh outlook on life.
Sorry to hear your friend is going through a rough time. It’s really the little things that will help perk up her day. In addition to the ideas above, things to soothe the senses like scented candles, nice handmade soap, bath salts or one of those fizzy “bath bombs.” As much as I LOOOVE the idea of chocolate I might stay away from that if you think your friend might be prone to overeating due to the stress she’s feeling- or you can just put a smaller amount of some high-end, gourmet type sweets 🙂
Post # 10
@Elrodien: That’s such a sweet & thoughtful thing. I agree with pp that movies / shows can work wonders 😀 so can some good music.
maybe you could also add some printouts of some fun photos of the two of you (if you have any…)
or if she’d like that maybe a cute funny card with some animal; or a calender with funny / cute animal pictures.
once i had a real bad breakup, some friends got me an ikea man pillow and a cake pan in the shape of a guys torso (sorta saying “bake yourself the man of your dreams”). those things weren’t really helpful and made me even more sad. but maybe there are people out there who would find that funny… i didn’t though.
Post # 11
Some cute, happy movies.. for my friends I would totally include color books [we all really like to color as weird as it sounds], some of her favorite music, maybe some chicken soup or other comfort foods?
Post # 12
Wow, thanks so much everyone! Now I won’t run out of ideas when I hit the store, LOL.
I was thinking the same thing re: too much chocolate/fattening foods. I’m not sure if she weats her emotions away but I know I do!
I have to tell you how much I love your username! I’m a huuuuge, huge, huge Tolkien fan and going to see the Hobbit for the second time tomorrow!