- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2006
Not trying to be a troll or cause Made-Up Drama, I honestly am not sure what to do here:
It has generally been my policy to thank references that I use to obtain a new job. However this time I was out of work in excess of 9 months and applied for over 120 positions. I received a couple of job offers, but they were for less than $100 a week pay before taxes, so I did not accept them. Bottom line is that some of my references were called more than once — actually multiple times. Some of the jobs even called the references before calling me in for an interview .
Background: I left my last job during the 90 day probationary period; long story short I was being harrassed on the job by the CEO and my co-workers, which continued more than 6 months after I left the job via phone, email, etc. So obviously I didn’t use references from that position — didn’t even put in on my resume — so my references came from the place that I worked over a year ago, as well as other professional references. I am also a customer of the place that I worked last year, so I go in there about every 4 weeks or so and see my former boss. I only worked there for 8 months, but worked with an associated company for 18 months before that, so I worked with these people for over 3 years before I left.
My former boss originally said that she would provide a reference, then about 3 months into my job search said that the company wouldn’t allow her to do more than provide confirmation of employment (for legal reasons). Last time I was in there another supervisor seriously embarassed me by asking me in front of about 10 other customers if we’d lost our house due to my unemployment. I have sensed things getting hostile there for months, but they have endured a lot of internal change, so I always chalked it up to company issues.
I’ve finally found a job as an admin at an out of town non-profit. Seriously doubt I’ll run into any of my former co-wokers, either from the 90 day job or the one with my former supervisor who backed out of giving references. I did not use my last supervisor as a reference for this position as I got it mostly on the strength of my design portfolio and computer skills, plus since she can’t actually say anything good about me I didn’t think it would be of any use to put her down as a reference. When questioned about not having any references from that job I usually say that I did not work there very long and only as a part-time lower rung staff person, so that I feel other professional references I have provide a more accurate assesment of me as an employee.
However I do know the former supervisor was contacted by 3 or 4 other positions for which I interviewed. Do I email her and thank her for confirming my employment for so many people and let her know I have a job? Or do I just not say anything? I have been trying to avoid the place after the last embarassing encounter with the other supervisor and would rather they did not know anything about where I’m working now. In fact I have considered just letting them think I’m a housewife still, but wonder if that will cause problems down the road, especially if I don’t pass my 90 day review at my new job OR we have to relocate in 6 months because of my husband’s job?
What do the bees think? PS: I am usually not a job hopper. Had only 2 jobs, one of which was down-sized (I would not have left otherwise), from 1999-2006. Since 2006 I’ve had a new one every year due to cut-backs, financially unstable comapnies, etc . . .