- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
Looking for some career advice from fellow bees!
In High School, I wanted to be a cosmetologist. My guidance counselors and teachers convinced me to attend college instead. I decided on teaching. I am certified to teach History and Special Ed at the high school level. In New York, history jobs are few and far between. For the last two years, I’ve taught a self-contained Special Ed class in an inner-city school. My students have severe behavioral and emotional disturbances. Last year I was so stressed that my health diminished and I found myself having full blown panic attacks.
Obviously, I decided to apply elsewhere. Unfortunately I did not get an interview in any of the districts that I wanted to work in. I was offered a similar Specal Ed position in another low income setting. I have to decide very soon whether or not I want this job. It is a non-tenure track job but it does come with a pay raise and good benefits. It makes good financial sense as we are planning on trying for a baby right after the wedding.
I look back on these last few years and I’m sad at how stressed, anxious, and jaded I’ve become. I also feel guilty because students in this population deserve a passionate teacher who isn’t frazzled and exhausted! My fiancé is an incredibly hardworker and has a good paying job. As it is, he pays the bills and I pay my student loan. The rest of my check goes to a savings account for baby, emergencies, etc. I could afford to step away from the profession, but I don’t want my fiancé to feel like I am failing him. Even though I dont particularly like teaching, it is all I know. I was offered an asst manager position in a retail cosmetics store, but I’m afraid to take the leap (and pay cut)!
So that’s my situation. I would love some advice from other brides and wives, especially those who have changed careers. I have tried this profession out for two years, but it just doesn’t seem to be my calling. Am I foolish to go for round 3 or should I take a chance and move on?