Post # 1
So the company I work for is merging with a much bigger company, and we’ll all be offered jobs that are similar to our current roles with equal or better benefits than the current role. Pretty good gig except the part of my role that I enjoy doing and taking me down a career path that I’d like to pursue, is actually done in a different city within this company.
And in the city where I’m located, there will be a role available that is relevant to my current job but basically entails much of the boring part of my current job that I don’t enjoy. The role will entail other aspects too but I see it as almost taking me backwards a bit on my career path.
Moving city is out of the cards for me, so I’m bummed out. It would’ve been a great step forward for me career wise if I was able to do the work that’s located in that city here in my current city, but this company don’t want this particular team split between cities (unlike the team they’ll put me in).
I’m considering looking for other roles in the meantime and who knows there might be a better role out there, if there’s nothing, I’ll have this new role to go to and there may be possibility for growth in the future.
All of this is making me question my career aspirations. I’ve had so many twists and turns trying to get there and now I just feel tired, like I’m never going to get there.
We’re planning to start a family next year after we get married. So I also think about whether having a family means I just shouldn’t bother trying to pursue my career aspirations anymore and just be happy with what I got which is a high paying job and something I will do well and probably progress in, and really just focus on family life and life outside of work.
Certainly a lot of people I know see work as just a job, a way to put food on the table, and is all about their family life and leisure. But that was never me and I had bigger ambitions. But now I’m just tired and starting to question whether it’s all worth it.
What do you bees think? Any career wisdom to share? Anything you wish you had done or not done with your career? Anything you’re happy that you did or didn’t do?
Post # 2
“We’re planning to start a family next year after we get married. So I also think about whether having a family means I just shouldn’t bother trying to pursue my career aspirations anymore “
I wouldnt think like this. You have no idea how long it might take and job satisfaction matters. Always do the best you can for yourself.
I would talk to management and see if theres another role you could take.
Post # 3
I do think a job is a job and that the more important elements of life are family and personal life. However that doesn’t mean that I would want or stay in a job that I didn’t get satisfaction from. It merely means that if push comes to shove I prioritize family/personal life over job/career decisions.
I used to be incredibly ambitious – wanted to either run my own mid/large sized company or get to the point of upper management in one. Now? Ha. No thanks. I want a job that stimulates me and in which I’m continuing to grow and develop professionally….but I also want the flexibility to see my kids at night (or even work part time for stretches of time). So I still have career ambitions but they’re considerably chiller than when I was younger.
We spend a huge part of our lives at work, being bored for most of your day-to-day life? No thanks.
I’d browse for alternative options. Take the job here if nothing better comes around and then continue to browse for new opportunities. Don’t go into this job with the mentality of ‘settling’ though!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
“All of this is making me question my career aspirations. I’ve had so many twists and turns trying to get there and now I just feel tired, like I’m never going to get there.”
The first question is: where are you trying to get? In my career experience, you often don’t end up exactly where you thought you might, but it can still be fulfilling. Every time I set a specific expectation for what I wanted and how I was going to get there, I was disappointed. But when I relaxed my mindset a bit and worked with what I had in front of me to make the best choices for myself at that time, I ended up somewhere very fulfilling but drastically different than my “dream job.” I think it might be worth reconsidering your “bigger ambitions.” Not to make them smaller, but to allow them to perhaps change shape, and take form into something you haven’t yet thought of as an option. In short: get creative and don’t pigeonhole yourself. =)
As for starting a family, my best advice would be this: you’ll probably have to ease up on your career ambitions temporarily in order to do that. I don’t have kids, so take this with a grain of salt. But in my years as a businesswoman (I do own my own business), I see most women adopt this “all or nothing” attitude, and it’s very detrimental. There’s nothing wrong with taking a hiatus from your career to build your family, and when that’s settled, then you’ll be excited to throw yourself back into the game. It’s ok to not be obsessed with forward or upward motion for a spell. If it’s important to you after the kids come, then you’ll still be able to chase it.
Post # 5
hickoryhills : You are spot on about never ending up in the “dream job”. And at the heart of it, that’s what I’m wondering if I should give up on, the vision of the dream job. I’m not saying the new job won’t be fulfilling (without knowing fully what it will entail day to day just yet, aside from the boring routine stuff, because there is definitely more to it than that), and it may very well take me somewhere unexpected.
So far I’ve already ended up in jobs that I had not envisioned I would do (hence the twist and turn). I think I feel bummed this time round because I’m so close to the type of job I really wanted to do if not for the location.
Location has been a hinderance in my career all along because my city isn’t the financial centre of the country, so there’s limited opportunities in my field in my city. But there are still opportunities around. It’s just that this time round the location issue became basically the only reason I’m not getting the job that I really wanted to do, all because the company’s decision that this team should be solely located in the other city even though majority of the rest of the company is located in my city. It just feels…disappointing.
Feels like I’m back to the drawing board.
As for the family side, I don’t mind taking up to a year off and get back into it, I don’t think it’s going to affect my career progress much. Most companies here are family oriented and have great work life balance. But I was considering the family factor because for example I just saw a job that looks quite interesting and right up my alley, but is a very new company with not much foothold, and having worked in a small company in my industry before, it’s easy for things to all turn and them having to cut people, so it’s higher risk, which I would’ve absolutely tried to apply and have a go for at least a year or two for the experience, if it wasn’t for the fact that I’m 33 and thinking of starting a family within the next year, so having job security when I get pregnant is important to me. So that’s another reason why I feel like, I can’t afford to take some risks anymore whereas I would have a few years ago.