Post # 1
<div>Hi, I thought I would ask here so I could get the opinion of some nice women :)</div>
I’m 17 and currently trying to figure out what I would like to study in university. I am definitely leaning towards either something in the sciences(bio,astrophysics) or humanities (archeology, history, anthropology-As you can probably tell, i’m pretty undecided). It’s been recomended to me to study a dual degree which is something I will most likely do. The only thing stopping me from pursuing academia is children.
I undoubtedly want to have children, and ideally stay at home with them until they start preschool/school. I’m worried about choosing a career that won’t allow me to do this or has late hours. I have spoken to my older sister about this but as she does not ever want to have children, she doesn’t fully understand.
Please help me, what should I do? Should I study something that I don’t enjoy as much but would allow be more time for children or should I pursure academia?
Post # 2
I suppose it depends on which means more for you. Personally, hypothetical, future children never entered my mind as a factor for choosing what to study in college or the career path I wanted to pursue.
I’m a bit confused though – are you considering not going to university at all because you want children? I’ll be honest, if that’s the case it’s completely baffling to me. I would never recommend it to someone and think it would be a very foolish decision.
Post # 3
There’s really no need to make this decision now. You can do your undergraduate degree without committing to a career in academia. There are plenty of careers where the actual content of your undergraduate degree doesn’t even matter, and doing a dual degree with sciences and humanities should keep all your options open.
Post # 4
Career. Definitely career.
This is someone who is 100% planning to have kids and would like to stay home with them for several years if possible.
1) you have tons of time before youll have kids. Say you finish school at 23ish. What if you don’t have kids until 27? That’s actually pretty young so I’m being on the conservative side here. That’s four whole years. Wouldn’t you rather start off doing something you love? But in all reality, you could easily wait until your late 30s to have kids allowing for so much potential in your career.
2) even if you stay home until they are in school, let’s assume you have two kids. That means you’d be off work for about 7-8 years. After those years you have so much time until you’d be reitirement age!!
3) why can’t the dad also stay home for a period of time so you can pursue your career?
4) there really needs to be stopped the idea that you have to choose. You can have a fantastic career and have kids. Of course you might need to make some sacrifices (more day care than anticipated, having kids later, having fewer kids, etc)
5) we need more women in science and technology. If you are interested in that area, WE NEED MORE OF YOU!
Post # 5
Do not limit your schooling for potential children. You are young and an education in whatever field you chose is never a bad investment.
Post # 6
Besides- it will be much easier to persue education and start a career before children than after.
Post # 7
We need more women in the STEM field! Go for career, maybe one day you can balance both, or maybe you can choose to leave your career for children, but at least with the education you will have a choice.
Post # 9
Figure out a way to work part time after you have kids. I had a job that involved nights, weekends, and kids would have been nearly impossible, unless I hired a full-time nanny. Could not afford and didn’t want to do that. Great that you are thinking ahead. At the end of life no one wishes she had worked more.
Post # 10
School! You may not even meet the man of your dreams until you are in your 30s! And waiting to have kids is smart anyway as you’ll be more established
Post # 11
I will chime in and say that since you are so young, take the time to get an undergraduate degree in a subject that you are very drawn to. When you’re there, reach out to professors and other colleagues about working in the field and having kids, they might have some insightful answers for you.
I’ve known people who have done their Masters and PhD with kids in tow, and it can be difficult and stressful at times. I would also check out places like job fairs or start job searching now so that you get an idea of what certain jobs would need in terms of hours.
At the bottom line, I would also say that it would be the best to have a good solid career and a lot saved up so that you can provide for your kids when you do have them. 🙂
Post # 12
I will definitely be going to university. I just meant that I would study something easy like veterinary science. But I think I’m going to study a dual degree and think about my career for now. 🙂
Post # 13
Thank you all for your input. I’ve decided going to be doing a dual degree, most likey science/humanities. I hope you all have amazing weddings/marriages! 🙂