Post # 1
Here is your scenerio:
you love your current company and plan on staying for a very long time. You are in your late 20’s and plan on TTC the end of 2013 (G-d willing have your first baby 2014 but plan on always working full time). you are highly educated and always wanted to get into management.
A. take a job that allows flexible scheduling (work remotely 2-3 days a week). and a great work environment, very laidback. You have been passionate about makign a difference in this department and know you will succeed in this job and willl probably have the chance for a management position in 5-7 years. this job is the same amount of pay you receive in your current position. but very good day (you are doing well financially but not rich)
B. take a management job in your current department now. its a new position so its hard to tell how stressful it is. you will not have any flex scheduling options (no working remotely). you know you will do this job well and are also passionate about it. however, its well known that managers in this department are expected to work 8-5 M-F and are usually fairly busy most of the time. Money will be significantly more but not sure how much at this point.
Keep in mind, you plan on starting a family in a year and a half. what would you do????
please explain why if you can! 😀 thanks ladies
Post # 3
@bestbuddies: it’s much harder to go up, so I’d take the opportunity and scale back when I needed to.
Post # 4
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I’ve been offered numerous promotions that would take away my ability to work from home twice a week, and would require more rigid day-to-day schedules. I’ve turned down each offer. Being able to have a schedule that meets my family’s needs is the most important thing to me. And trust me that, once you have a kid, that flexibility will be essential to your sanity.
Post # 6
Since I have a child to think of. I would take the flexible schedule.
Post # 7
The flexible/work life/great job sounds like the ideal situation if you’re planning to TTC. You’ll (presumably) end up in the management position after a few years anyway, so it’s kind of like the best of both worlds.
Post # 8
I am a dissendent is seems. I vote management position.
You can always find another job with better hours etc afterwards and you will already have the manager title on your resume which will mean you will make more money from here on out most likely.
A lot can happen in a year and a half.
Post # 9
Yikes, I really value flexibility so my guy reaction was to say take the more flexible job; that said, reading the other posts about getting the manager title now and then being able to stay at a higher pay rate later has some merit. Perhaps you could even buck tradition and push for more flexible schedules for managers too? I don’t think money should be the main decision factor, yiu ‘ll be doing well with both options so perhaps try making a pro/con list for each and see which stacks up better that way? Your gut is another valuable guide. Which option feels the most right and natural (as opposed to the most logical or expected).
Post # 10
@Captain013: great way to think of it. but, what if i take the manager job, get pregnant in 6 months and then have a baby and it is wayyy too much. What if it is too much when I am going through pregnancy for the first time? I cannot picture being 8 months pregnant sitting in meetings all day and working my butt off?? not to mention returning to work. Just things I am thinking of. and so lets say I decide to step down, this other flex job might not be available… or their might be “bad blood” for not accepting that job and loose my chances of getting in that department later
Post # 11
@ThreeMeers: Exactly what I was thinking. If you get pregnant in 6 months, then you take maternity leave in a year and/or look for a new job. Once you actually are pregnant, you could talk about any alternative hour possibilities after maternity leave. If there are none and you don’t love the job enough to be ok with that, then look for a new job before you’re showing too much. That would still be almost a year from now, and having that job on your resume would surely help you with the next one. I would take the better job and deal with things as they come, you don’t know what will happen in a year or two. What if you take the other job and still aren’t pregnant in 2 years… wouldn’t you regret it?
Post # 12
@bestbuddies: Those are legitamate concerns, but remember there are many, many what ifs.
What if you take the flexible job and realize its not enough money for everything you need and want to do with a kid. Just because you work from home, doesnt mean you can watch your kid at the same time effectively. Youll still need help/daycare. Or what if you take the job and despite it being flexible its really boring or you hate your coworkers?
The point being is there are lots of what ifs.
Is there a reason you dont seem to think going outside this company is an option if it works out best for you? Why would you step down vs just finding a different job?
Also, I think 6 months is an average learning curve. So if you do get pregnant in 6 months your job will already feel a lot easier. Youll know a lot about it and yourll make it work. And if for some reason you cant, you stay through your maternity leave and while out look for another job that fits you.
If your worried, you set aside that pay raise you will get for the next 1.5 years and use that as a cushion. Of course, the pay raise does need to be worth the risk you take on. Its not worth it for a 5% raise, but 15% or more, definately.
Post # 13
@RunnerBride13: oh wow, great point about a delayed pregnancy or whatever. hrm…you ladies all have some great arguements 😀
Post # 14
@bestbuddies: there’s always going to be some 8-5 peon job though. Management jobs are few and far in between. The chances of you being promoted after taking time off for a baby go down until you pay more dues, and show that you can do the job after baby. Ive never heard of anyone being promoted after taking time off, the usually look at it as negative time. I’d take the job and resume boost, and pay boost before stepping out of leave. Bume that is me. Are you a okay with putting off career advancement for 2 years? Indefinitely? Heck you might not even like management. Good luck!
Post # 15
@Captain013: great advice.thanks for sharing what you would do. i always have seen myself as a manager, I just have a good personality and work ethic for it. but, I am so much younger than all other managers I am so surprised they would even look at me for this. I am 27, the youngest other manaager in our department is 40. Plus, I am female in a very male dominated field (IT). but, i KNOW that I could do the job, etc. i have no idea if I would like it though….honestly. if i wasnt so focused on starting a family then i would take it and be so happy. its just, i am so focused on starting a family that i dont even know what my career goals are anymore…..
Post # 16
Personally, a work-life balance is hugely important for me. So that’s the route I’d go.
Is this management position in the same department you’re currently working in? With the people/environment that is causing you stress and making you unhappy at work?