Career post/question.

posted 2 months ago in Career
  • poll: What did or will you do when you have/had children?
    Just took maternity leave : (16 votes)
    89 %
    Quit and became a SAHM : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 2
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    9383 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    My plan is to just take maternity leave and go back to work. I can’t see myself being a Stay-At-Home Mom. I work part-time, from home though so I’ll kind of being doing both. The insane amount of flexibility I get from my job is one of the reasons I’m staying with it even though for awhile I was considering making a career change.

    Post # 3
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    2688 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve done both. I just took maternity leave with my first (52 weeks in the UK) and I’m on leave again with my second now. I plan to resign when my leave ends and be a Stay-At-Home Mom for a few years 

    Post # 4
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    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I’m a healthcare executive in the US. I’ve taken two 12 week leaves and will take a third this summer. I learned quickly with the first that staying home was t for me.  

    Post # 5
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    1624 posts
    Bumble bee

    sweetkat92 :  I work in a school and specialise working with ASC and mental health with students. 

    Personally it’s neither for me because I don’t want kids. But if I did I would personally prefer just taking the maternity leave and then going back to work. Being a stay at home mum wouldn’t be for me, I think it’s a great option for many others but it would drive me mad if I had to do that option. For me my career and job is a big thing and I’ve spent a lot of years building on it, I would hate having to take a load of years away from it.

    Post # 6
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    46 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    Looking back, I have a lot of regrets not being a stay at home mom. I missed out on so much with my kids building my career. 

     

    I am very successful now, but I am replaceable at work, we all are. You can’t replace a mom. I could have built the same career while they were at school and made a great home for them and my husband at the time. I am convinced too, that part of the reason I lost my 23 year marriage was because I am so career driven, and didnt pay enough attention at home. 

    Daycares are really no substitute to a mom. They won’t  teach your kids what you want them to learn, and they won’t love them like you do. 

    On the flip side, I had no trouble supporting myself, buying my ex out of our house. And building a brand new home.  I guess it depends what is important to you. 

     

    Post # 7
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    971 posts
    Busy bee

    I plan to go back to work. I feel like it would be a waste of my education to stay at home and I am really happy with my salary. I wouldn’t want to give that up. 

    Post # 8
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    2415 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m a Probation Officer and definitely could not be a Stay-At-Home Mom. My husband will work part time so he can be home if we have a one and I will only take maternity leave. My job is flexible when it comes to family and career life and we have a choice of three different schedules. 4 ten hour days with three days off, M-F 8-5, or 9/80 with either every other Monday or every other Friday off. I am on 4/10 so I have weekends and can choose either Fridays or Mondays off. This works for us for Dh to be home the days that I’m working and we can have at least one of us raising our kid while they’re little until school age. 

    Post # 9
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    1708 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I will be taking 5 months of maternity leave and then going back part time (probably). I’ll be in the office 2 days a week and working from home 1-2 days a week. If I decide not too (may not make sense as daycare is expensive), then when we repatriate, I will begin working again and have taken 12 months of maternity leave. I do plan to work again at some point but I want to be able to be there for my kid and be present in his life. 

    Post # 10
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    1884 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I’ll be taking 6 months off and going back 4 days a week. Hubby will hopefully have off at least one if not 2 of the days I work. We’ll get a nanny for the rest. We couldn’t afford me to give up work and with my current role I can’t work less than 4 days a week. If we have a second I might change roles to work 3 days a week.

    Post # 11
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    1185 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

    I’m lucky where I live we get 12-18 months mat leave.

    Depending when I get pregnant/child is born I will time it based on the school year (am a teacher – makes sense to go back in September and not some random time). So for example if I had a baby in February I’d go back after 18 months, but if it were in July then my mat leave would only be 13 months. 

    My plan is to then go back for one year to qualify for mat leave again, have a second child, and take the full 18 months. After that one I don’t know if I would work until they are both in school. Who knows what I’ll feel like once I’m actually in it (I know some women are dying to get out of the house and back to work) but I’m thankful that my husband makes enough money for it to be an option. 

    Post # 12
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    7801 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I had a baby six months ago. I’m a WFH freelancer – took an unpaid leave after baby was born and then went back to work at about two months postpartum. I reduced my hours to part time (around 20 hrs a week) so we didn’t have to get childcare. It’s working great so far.

    Post # 13
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    6358 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Went back to work at the time we didn’t have enough to support for one income but I would still want to work even if we did.  I hate being a working mom but at the same time I can’t be a Stay-At-Home Mom.  I’d go crazy

    Post # 14
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    4835 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I work in design strategy and love my job. I will take a year’s maternity leave, or potentially a bit less than that but split it with my husband and return to work after.  In the uk you can split the leave between both parents, I don’t know quite how we will work it out yet as that depends on our job situation at the time but we will take at least 3 months off together and then the other 6/9 months will potentially be just me. 

    In an ideal world by the time I have kids I will be self employed and when they are going to school I will be able to work very flexible hours or 4 days a week.  I could never be a stay at home mom, it just wouldn’t be enough for me personally.  I think it is good to do things purely for yourself sometimes and having a career and a passion is a great thing to teach your children through doing. 

    Post # 15
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    1369 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Being in the US, I will likely get very limited maternity leave, which I think factors in a lot here. I hope to work part time when the kids are young and go back to full time once they reach school age.

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