(Closed) Career Woman or Stay-At-Home-Mom

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: What should I do?
    Career Woman : (24 votes)
    27 %
    Stay-At-Home-Mom : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Career Now, Stay-At-Home-Mom Later : (54 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 1997

    Have those babies and worry about the future later! My husband and I fully intended to have kids, but everytime we started seriously considering it there was something we needed to wait for…the right job, right house, pay off debt, master’s degree, etc. By the time we had all of those things in place, we didn’t really want to start having babies! I love my life, but sometimes I regret not just saying “screw it, let’s have kids!” 

    Post # 18
    Member
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee

    There is never the “right time” to have kids. Something financially always comes up. Have the kids while you are young and can keep up with them and can enjoy them fully.

    Do I wish I had kids earlier? Sure, but that would have meant having them with an abusive ex. So no, not a good situation and I am glad there are no ties back to him. With current Darling Husband, there was a lot of figuring out me because of screwed up relationships. I am glad that he stuck with me and is the father of our kids. I had #1 just after I turned 33 and #2 just before I turned 35.

    Post # 19
    Member
    2092 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    It’s hard to get a higher paying job as a new RN. I had to start out in a nursing home and I made $19 right out of school working full time and a charge nurse. after about 6 months I was lucky enough to get my new job at the local hospital on the med surg floor and I make about $30 an hour. I was only lucky enough to be hired because my interview went well and they saw my passion for learning. However most hospital jobs you need a minimum of 2 years experience on a med surg floor (which if you can’t get a hospital job, how do you get that?) I think it’s important to get all the experience you can young because it will help you down the line to earn a higher paying job. Personally I would wait but that’s just me.

    Post # 20
    Member
    587 posts
    Busy bee

    Another nurse here. If it were me, I’d definitely at least do a grad year after you graduate before TTC. You nneed to put all that hard learning into real practice and get some experience under your belt if you plan to go back to nursing after kids. Most of the nurses who I work with often only work two to four days a fortnight if they have young children at home. If they work weekends or nights, often the husband is home then and can look after the children, which saves on day care costs.

    Post # 21
    Member
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    No advice regarding your specefic field, but I can tell you what we’ve decided, so far.  I’ve established a career at this point, and now at 34 I’m pregnant with our first.  I plan to return to work for now.  If we have another, daycare will eat of more of my paycheck than I’m willing to part with to be away from my kids all day and I’ll probably quit.  

    I think you should go ahead with your plans to finish school and get a job.  Try not to be pregnant in school, it can be a real physical drag, and school can be more exhausting than work.  Don’t “try” until you’re 100% ready to be pregnant, but also you don’t know how long it will take, so you may end up working for a year+ before a baby is on the scene.  At that point you might feel differently, too.  I always wanted to stay at home, for sure, until I started this job.  I really like it, and I’m going to try to make it all work.  

    Post # 22
    Member
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee

    almostmrsj brings up a very good point about daycare. Which is another reason I decided to stay at home. I was spending close to my entire paycheck on daycare for 2 kids. I was making $20/hour and working full time too so it’s not like I had a part time job making minimum wage.

    Definitely finish school first. Then work until you get pregnant. It took me 7 months to get pregnant the first time and that was with monitoring.

    Post # 23
    Member
    3858 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2007 - City, State

    xxukyo5354:  you know I stay at home and I’m proud to know my kids will look up to a mother who loved them more than anything in this world! Who was taking care of them and the home! Who pushed them to follow all their dreams! Your comment was really rude towards stay at home moms. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  TrueLove407.
    • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  TrueLove407.

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