(Closed) Cash bar?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Open.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Host what you can afford.  If this means an open bar, that’s lovely.  If not, then maybe do beer, wine, and a signature cocktail.  At no point in a hosted event should the guest have to open their wallets or purses! 

As for you being underage, your venue or caterer should have the proper licensing for serving alcohol.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@DaneLady:   I agree – whatever you can afford (even uf that means no alcohl) without asking your guests to pay.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Even if you’re underage, your guests will probably enjoy alcohol. Since you are the host, you should provide at least beer, wine, and soft drinks.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@DaneLady:  I disagree.  They are already providing a meal and entertainment, they don’t need to provide free alcohol on top of that.  Having a cash bar wedding is fine.  I know there was a thread last week I think that everyone expressed their opinion on cash bars, and it clearly varies based on the crowd you run with and the area you come from.  

If you can’t afford an open bar then a cash bar is totally fine, IMO.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@msfahrenheit:  I agree. Plus, you’ll probably be able to dirnk pretty easily at your own wedding unless your parents would stop you. It’s not like the bartender will be checking IDs.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you can’t afford a full bar, I would serve wine and beer. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

Totally depends on why and where

What is common in your area and what would people expect. In my area I have never been to a cash bar and people would not be happy at all if they went to a wedding with one. (unles it was an obviously low cost wedding) Even just beer and wine. Other areas open bar is unusual. 

Why are you not having alcohol, only because you are not 21? I dont drink soda or rum or scotch, but I provided that for my guests. Or because it is a money thing? Or a religious thing?

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think it’s fine either way.  If you can afford open bar, nice!

If not, you can compromise having wine/beer and then cash bar.

Or, simply just cash bar. 

Fiance and I are not too crazy on beer so we will only serve wine at our reception.  The rest is cash bar as we can’t afford open bar. 

There is no rule says that wedding needs to have alcohol provided by the host.  I would encourage to at least provide some soft drinks if no alcohol.  I don’t want to get thirsty 🙂

 

 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Cash bar is definitely ok. I can’t understand how people afford open bar or even open beer and wine options. The price is ridiculous, and I’m sure all of your guests would rather see you save that money and put it towards a house or honeymoon. I’ve only been to 1 open bar wedding and people left drinks half-full only to grab another and got over the top sloppy drunk. You’re shelling out enough for the food and entertainment and your guests won’t care about paying for a few beers.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@Meliss1007:  At my reception, it’s priced into the package, and if you don’t want it, you have to go a la carte on everything, which ends up costing way, way more.  On the a la cart drink menu, though, soda for everyone is $30/person, and beer and wine is only $5 more.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MapleMoose:  I appreciate your opinion, but I suppose we’ll have to agree to disagree.  I think if you can’t afford an open bar, or even a few bottles of wine on each table, then a dry reception is more etiquette-appropriate than expecting guests to pay for anything. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@DaneLady:  I agree. The guests shouldn’t have to even bring a wallet to your wedding, except maybe for valet (and I’m a little torn on that one).

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mrsSonthebeach:  I think in a big city where people generally expect to pay for parking, they would bring a few bucks for valet.  Where I am from though, people usually expect valet/parking to be included.  We actually chose a venue based on their all-inclusiveness: our guests won’t need to bring a penny with them except for travel and accommodations.

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