Post # 1
So my parents are paying for our wedding and we’re footing the bill for our Honeymoon. My family isn’t big on drinking. My FI’s family is.
Our Reception facility wanted to charge an additional $16 per person for drinks. I thought it was a little ridiculous since half of the guests won’t drink. They said if we chose the Cash Bar option guests needed to spend at least $500 combined or else we pay the difference — we’re fine with that.
Is it tacky to not have an open bar? These are the prices:
Liquor: $4 – $6 (top shelf)
Imported Beer: $4
Domestic Beer: $3
Wine: $6 a glass and up
Post # 3
Is it possible to have strictly beer and wine only? That may help cut the cost.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
$16 pp is nothing. Mine was $55. I personally do not think it is polite to have a cash bar. If you are not going to provide the drinks gratis, they shouldn’t be offered at all. Guests should be able to show up without a wallet or purse. You can look into having an open beer/wine bar instead and host that if you want.
Post # 5
I do not think it’s tacky, but I definitely get a little bummed when I see that it’s a cash bar.
Post # 6
$16/person?!?!? Thats super cheap! Is that all they can drink?
I agree with @Blanche, I don’t think its tacky, because I get that its expensive, but I am always bummed out by it.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s tacky to have a cash bar but I do think it’s tacky for people to expect one!
Post # 8
Coming from the point of view of a fellow cash bar wedding….. if you’re on a budget, you’re on a budget. I certainly do not have the money to pay $4.50 a drink for 150 ppl who are big drinkers. That would cost as much as the whole reception bill. As a compromise we are having an open bar “cocktail hour” the few hours between the ceremony and reception, but we can only so this because our wedding is at a facility that also has a campground and we can bring our own booze there. If the people at your wedding are familiar with you at all they will have an idea of what you can and cannot afford to do.
Post # 9
I agree- not necessarily tacky, but kinda meh. Can you lessen the time for an open bar and then do wine and beer only or something? The cash bar doesn’t seem too expensive. Can you prepay for a certain amount of drinks and then switch to cash bar?
Post # 10
Can you just offer free wine and beer maybe?
Post # 11
At most weddings I’ve been to I’ve only been offered free beer/ soda. Is something like this a possibility for you?
Post # 12
As someone who is having a cash bar, I don’t think it’s tacky..but we are supplying all the wine for dinner….I think I”ve only ever been to one wedding where it was an open bar, and that was my daughters, she only had 11 guests….mine is going to be about 200
Post # 13
I think this depends entirely on where you live and your circle of friends.
Post # 14
@UJSMCWG06: I’m getting married in Charleston too 🙂
And I am also having a cash and carry bar. I think that would be the best way to do it, because we are inviting alot of people, and cannot afford the $25 per person plus the bartending fees. We have alot of people who are under 21, so they wont be drinking, and alot of our family members will not be drinking. My parents are covering my Fiance and my drinks. Also, if we have a cash and carry bar, people will not get as drunk because it is on thier own dime.
Post # 15
I had a friend who did a cash bar, they wound up charging $4 for soda and $4 for water as it had to be “bottled” water. Please make sure that non alcoholic drinks will be covered before you go that route. Also I would say that $16 per person is extremely reasonable. That is less than 3 glasses of wine or 4 beers. At a wedding reception which is several hours long, most people who want to drink will have about 1-2 per hour which is 4-10 per person total(depending on the length of the reception), which they will probably not do if there is a cash bar. This is the average person who won’t get drunk on that amount. Some people will drink more and some less.
Post # 16
I don’t think its “tacky”, but its not ideal. If there’s something that can be scrapped or rebudgeted, $16 a person is extremely reasonable and probably worth it for keeping your guests happy. Or just offering beer and wine. Is there an ATM right at your venue? If not, expect that people may be inconvenienced and possibly a little annoyed.