Post # 47
I don’t think its tacky as long as its just for alcohol, and people don’t have to pay for soda, tea, and coffee. I think $16 per person is expensive. She not talking about the meal. That just the per person cost for drinking. I think ours is about $5 for top self for 4 hours and just a regular bar was included in our package with the meal. I would not have added an extra $16 per person just for alcohol and both of our sides drink. My wedding is in the Chicagoland area so things are pretty pricey, to start and I think $16 per person for 1 hour is way to much money.
Post # 48
do you think youll be able to meet the $500?
Post # 49
when i go to events i expect ill be hosted and everything’s included.
but i know it’s not in everyone’s budget to have open bar. did your fi’s family offer to host the bar since theyre the drinkers?
can you bring your own wine?
at one wedding i went to, it was open during cocktail hour—one hour of open bar. during dinner, there were bottles of red and white already on the table. we served ourselves which was fine. then the waiters came around to pour champagne for toast.
Post # 50
Can you choose the cash bar option then pay for it yourself? If you think, on average, guests will be drinking less than $16 of alcohol then it’d be cheaper.
Post # 51
I couldn’t afford an open bar, so I had soda, beer and wine only at my wedding. I would never make my guests pay for their own drinks, but limiting what they can drink is fine in my opinion. A lot of weddings I go to have only beer and wine, so that can cut down costs. I’ve never been to a cash bar reception and probably would be disappointed by that.
Post # 52
I don’t think its tackey either. I would suggest thinking about oferring a signature drink ( one for each person) for free then cash bar. I think that’s what I might do!!
Post # 53
I understand what people say about trying to save money, or not having the funds to pay for their guest’s alcohol, but to me it’s just one of the “musts” to having a wedding…food, drinks, music. Beer and wine only (or other limited drinks) is a great option if you’re trying to save money.
I’ve been to weddings that had open bar for the first 3 hrs or so, then an announcement was made and a cash bar was opened. That wasn’t bad, but everyone had also been told ahead of time so they were all prepared.
Another event I attended was full cash bar, no one knew about it and the venue only took cash. There was a lot of grumbling and complaining, and people (including me) actually had to leave and find an atm to get cash. So my advice is give your guests a heads up about whatever you decide to do.
Post # 54
I’ve never been to an open bar at a wedding before so I definitely don’t think it’s tacky to do a cash bar. Where I come from, it’s pretty much normal and expected to do a cash bar… Thank goodness cuz it definitely helps the budget that way! 🙂
Post # 55
Oh, I forgot to add that we will be paying for the wine at the meal and a signature drink for cocktail hour.
Post # 56
Where I live, it’s only ever cash bar! I can’t imagine paying for people’s alcohol! But I have yet to see an open bar ever at a wedding.
Post # 57
I don’t think cash bar is tacky, I do think non alcoholic drinks should be free of charge though. I personally prefer an open bar but it would not bother to attend a wedding that did not have one (although I would like to know beforehand so I can bring money). If you are concerned about those who do drink maybe consider doing consumption to a certain amount, i.e. give the venue xxx amount of money for booze and once that money is spent they can come to you and see if you want to add more cash to it or if they are to switch over to a cash bar.
Post # 58
My philosophy is: Provide your guests with those things you can afford, but don’t charge them for the things you can’t provide.
Post # 59
Your venue is very cheap for booze, I think you should do the $500 option at least you only pay for what you use (unless it’s uner 5 bills).
Post # 60
A cash bar is fine. It’s ridiculous that you should have to spend thousands on alcohol. If people want to get drunk at your wedding – they will!
Post # 61
So one venue I looked at had the option of a sort-of cash bar, but instead of guests paying for drinks, the host could opt for the number of drinks consumed to be tallied, and then they would pay the cost at the end. Is that an option? Essentially, you want a cash bar but you want to pay for all of the drinks yourself… This could take care of the problem where only some of the guests will drink at all.