(Closed) Cash Bar

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is it tacky to have a Cash Bar?
    Yes : (141 votes)
    57 %
    No : (105 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 77
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    5072 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @magglemay-2013:  where in the midwest?  I’m in Michigan and can’t remember the last time I saw a cash bar.

    Post # 78
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    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @DeadlyNightshade:  Yes, I went back and reread the post. I can admit I didn’t  read it carefully. You read so many responses and after a while you just scan thru them. The only part I don’t agree with is, if you can’t afford to have an open bar, then don’t have one. I think its fine to have a  cash bar for those who want to drink. Other non-alcoholic drinks should be free tho.  If you can’t afford open bar, which might not be the couples main concern, then its fine to at least have the option to drink and mention it to your guest ahead of time, so they can be prepared to purchase drinks. 🙂

    Post # 79
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    530 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    As a drinker I obviously prefer an open bar haha but i do not think it is tacky to not have one.  In fact I think its tacky to expect one. 

    Post # 80
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am in the same boat as you are in, my Fi’s parents really want alcohol while I do not. So we settled on the cash bar… it was our way of meeting in the middle. And nope, i do not think that cash bars are tacky at all!

    Post # 81
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    1115 posts
    Bumble bee

    @echolove:  I am of the opinion that my guests should not have to pay anything at my wedding period. I agree with most people that’s it’s rude. I would rather scale back another aspect of my wedding, whether it be less expensive flowers, a cheaper dress or anything else. Then I could use that money to at least provide my guests with free beer and wine. 

    Your guests shouldn’t need to be prepared to do anything besides have a good time at YOUR expense since YOU are the one throwing a party. 

    Post # 82
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    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I resent that people on here have the nerve to accuse people who have a cash bar as rude, cheap and tacky. Clearly every region has their own customs and ideas on who should pay for what so why insult people for following the norm for their area. 

    Post # 83
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    627 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the reason it varies by region has nothing to do with “custom”….this is not like some traditional dance or event. The reason is that alcohol costs less in regions where cash bars are. In the Northeast, near any major city, per drink prices are a lot.

    The average around here is $5-$9 for beer, $12-$17 for cocktails. If I just bought the bride and groom a $300 gift, stayed in a $180 hotel and maybe booked a flight I would find it inconsiderate to then ask me to pay $15 a drink….especially considering the the alcohol pacakges are often included in prices so you’d have to TRY to avoid having alcohol to land a cash bar.

    Same is true for food. I see some brides on hear freaking out over having to spend $25 per person on food where if you come in under $150-$200 in my area you are right on track. I wouldn’t say it is a New York City custom to pay an arm and a leg for food, it’s just kind of how it is.

    I am on team “Beer and Wine”…and also some hard cider (for those of us who usually do light cocktails at social gatherings hard cider, pear or raspberry can be a nice alternative). 

    Post # 84
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    778 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @achara02:  I agree!  I’m having a cash bar because several people who are in my wedding party, as well as guests, are recovering addicts and cannot have easy access to alcohol.  I’m not cheap, I’m being accomodating to my guests. 

    If people are coming to my wedding for the free alcohol, then they’re not the people I want at my ceremony and reception.  I want to share my big day with people who are there to witness the union of my fiance and I, as well as our families. 

    Post # 86
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    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    A cash bar is always better than no bar!!  I’ve only been to a couple of dry weddings and they weren’t much fun — not a whole lot of dancing, lots of guests who leave early (where they go to the bar and buy their own drinks).  It’s a party and most adults will want to drink at a party. 

    But, in your situation, a consumption bar might also work– you pay for the number of drinks consumed.  You can always have then notify you when you reach a certain $ amt, and then decied to close your tab, or spend more.  Try to work something out with your venue. 

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