(Closed) Cash Bar Dilemma!!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee

 

Host the party/reception that you can afford. Your guests should be happy to receive you there even if you have only wine at the tables, along with the iced tea.

 

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think it’s nice to have a beer and wine reception to thank all your guests for coming if you can afford it. However, if you really can’t afford it then people should be happy to recieve what was offered to them as PP said. I would not side eye a bride who had a cash bar to keep the budget under control unless I knew she was wearing a $5000 dress or something because that shows that she values a dress more than hosting her guests. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by lamington.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I think you will get a lot of hate on this website for considering having a cash bar, but it really comes down to your area and what is the norm. 

 

Instead of doing a full open bar for the cocktail hour could you ask how much it would cost to have just beer/wine for the cocktail hour, then extend that into your reception for as long as your budget allows, then at a certain point have it become a cash bar? Rather than having an open bar then nothing?

 

If you do opt for a cash bar at any stage of the evening, please make sure your guests are aware that this will be the case so that they can be prepared and come with some cash. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I would determine how much you’re willing to spend on alcohol and have an open bar up to that dollar limit, then have it switch to cash. Another idea is to shut the bar down during dinner to mentally extend that open bar window without actually buying more alcohol.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Can you talk to your dad about switching to a cheaper reception venue and using the difference to include some kind of bar package? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

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FutureDrFiske:  No, having a bar that switches from being open to cash does not make up for anything.  In my opinion, this is even worse then just having a full cash bar.  There is nothing worse then going up to get a drink and it being free and then going back to get another drink and being told “that will be $8”.

And sorry not sorry but if you have a cash bar people will think that you cheaped out.  You need to host an event that you can afford and right now having alcohol at your wedding is not something that you can afford, so a dry wedding or finding a different venue that fits within your budget are your only options.  Guests should never have to open their wallets at a hosted event. Period.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

It depends whats the norm where you live, I am a UK bee, and its rare (like really rare) to go to a paid bar wedding, I have only been to one in my life and it was expensive! 

So here is normal to pay for drinks, just make sure everyone know its cash bar after a certain time and it should be fine 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

 

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FutureDrFiske:  like others said depends on location, I live in southern California and haven’t ever had a full open bar. Last friends had drink tickets which I thought was tacky because they were little red ride tickets lol but basically you got one free drink. And wine was served at the table.

We have a similar package to you. We’re paying it by ourselves and it looks like we’re going to get close to 20k. We found a venue we loved and is half the cost of others in the area, my dress is under 1k, I’m doing my own flowers even because frankly the cost has gotten out of control.  No way I’m shelling out another few grand for relatives to get wasted.(and they probably still will). We have open during cocktail hour, wine at tables, champagne for toast, and one of our favors is the small bottles of liquor that say take a shot we tied the knot.

They way I see it I’m spending a fortune to have people at my wedding. At this point wishing I would of just done the court and taken a month honeymoon, I’m exhausted lol.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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FutureDrFiske:  A cash bar is actually way way worse if you have such a nice, expensive venue.  The reception is for the guests, and I would really side-eye someone who clearly spent a lot of money on venue, dress, etc. and cheaped out on the actual hosting part.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

FWIW I strongly disagree with the peeps (on this thread and the other) that say either do open bar or no bar. As a wedding guest, yeah having a cash bar would be kind of annoying, but not even having the option of alcohol would be way more annoying. And any amount of free is better than not free, so having open bar during cocktail hour >> having a cash bar just for the sake of consistency.

Open bar is still >>>> any other option, though, sorry :/

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