(Closed) Cash Bar Dilemma!!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Wait, OP is having hot-air balloon rides, but wants to do a cash bar?

Post # 62
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Buzzing bee

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ironmaidelah:  I don’t think that is OP, I think that was another poster.  Datura maybe?  But then again I could be wrong.  But whoever is having hot air balloon rides deserves major side-eyes if they are then having a cash bar.

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you hosted a party at your home, would you ask your guests to pay for beer from your fridge? Why should hosting a party anywhere else be any different? Time to get creative and make some cuts. Your guests won’t remember your centerpieces, your designer shoes/dress/jewelry or your beautiful venue, but they will remember how it felt to pay for their own drinks after giving you a gift. It’s your special day, but your guests make your wedding. Show them a good time–you don’t get want to take them for granted.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Is the hot-air balloon a definite thing? Or something that was discussed and then jettisoned? That thread didn’t have a resolution, so it’s hard to know.

I know that FH or I will bring something up (ex., save-the-date pint glasses), we realize it’s too impractical/expensive/time-consuming, and move on (to the same save-the-date postcards or magnets that everyone else does). Was that the case here?

Post # 67
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Honey Beekeeper

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FutureDrFiske:  Where you are getting caught up is in the expectation that it is a necessity to have free flowing alcohol all night. 

Some posters are acting as if the only two choices are open bar or cash bar, which is also a ridiculous premise. 

You have many affordable options available to you.  I’ve been to weddings in all budget ranges. Passed wine, a signature drink, or an open bar during cocktail hour with a champagne toast or wine with dinner may be affordable and does not involve any cash bar or drink tickets. The latter are appropriate for a fundraiser or commercial event, never a private social occasion. 

Don’t mistake a common regional practice, for the etiquette of hospitality. They are two totally separate things. 

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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weddingmaven:  I don’t think anyone is saying it’s all or nothing. I know I mentioned specifically wine/beer or a white liquor reception. It’s the OP who didn’t look at the nuances and wants to go from full open bar to full cash bar, stop.

As far as the drink tickets go, our host–not us–did it for our engagement party because we were at an establishment that also had other attendees not related to our event. The drinks were paid for for three hours–if you wanted to stay later, then you had to pay. She just wanted to make sure that she paid for our friends’ and relatives’ drinks and not some randoms at the bar who said that they were “part of the engagement party.”

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well if you absolutely can’t do it, you can’t do it. But I’d take money out of somewhere else before I’d subject my guests to a cash bar.

Post # 75
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Honey Beekeeper

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FutureDrFiske: There is absolutely nothing wrong with an open bar during cocktail hour with or without wine at dinner. It is absurd that you are calling this a  “dry wedding. ” Maybe in an alcoholic’s mind, something which I know you are not. 

A cash bar creates two tiers of guests based on whether or not they are willing to pay for their own refreshments. Unless you are running a commercial establishment, that is rude. Doesn’t this thread point to the fact  that at least some of your guests will feel this way? 

 

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